The Debate Chat

First of all, what do you folks consider to be "cheating" in a relationship? A drunken kiss, a crush on another person, the full on "sneaking back into the house at 4 am with lipstick on your collar"? My father just told me about a situation he was trying to smooth over between 2 of his guild mates in another game. A man in his guild started having feelings for a woman and started flirting with her. She didn't reciprocate his feelings and rejected him, though maybe after letting it go a bit too far. My problem is, the guy is married! I felt horrible after hearing that. Imagine being in his wife's shoes. How would you handle that? Would you consider that cheating? I think …

So recently I've been reading a lot about Scientology. Well, let me rephrase that: I've been reading a lot of testimonials from people who managed to escape Scientology. I started with these two posts from Cracked: 5 Ways Growing Up Inside Scientology Was a Nightmare and 5 Disturbing Things I Learned in Scientology's 'Space Navy'. Both are awesome, by the way. I then found this site from and for ex-scientology kids who managed to escape. I started reading a lot about Scientology and its origins, and I'm still amazed at the fact that people actually join in and believe in a religion that was completely fabricated by a well-known science-fiction writer, to the poi…

I saw this article on facebook last night, and the video left me in both happy and sad tears. I was disgusted by the way most acted, but when those two guys stood up for them I bawled like a baby. I was reading the comments and saw a lot of "It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight, I don't want to see you making out while I'm trying to eat" What are your thoughts?

So my friends joke with me saying I am a cat lady in training. My ex and mom feared when I saw kitties on the street because my IQ drops significantly whenever I see cats around (and because I want to feed them or take them home). My eye sight is horrible, but for whatever reason, I can spot a cat that's on the next block....I guess it's my calling haha ANYWAY Last year I was telling a friend about TNR (trap, neuter, release) to keep the feral cat population under control. I think it's a good idea, because ferals are technically wild cats, and like any wild animal, they usually dont adapt to living as a pet (or at least not as quick as some people would want them …

Do you agree with the following statements, and if you do, to what extent and why? If you don't, then why do you oppose that idea? Your past defines you Your upbringing and childhood defines you There is no definitive meaning to life, and thus we should not search for a 'true' meaning The meaning of life is to live a life with meaning We should acknowledge more antiquated theories in science as possibly holding some merit, so long as they have not been outright disproven or corrected (i.e. Newton's idea of gravity and force would not qualify for this) If life has no definitive meaning, then we should oppose all institutions which attempt to impose…

With the ever increasing frequency of gun-related shootings and crimes, is it time to strengthen gun control? Or is gun control the opposite of what we need to do (more guns, more people to react to these incidents)? Where does the government fit into this? Should they dictate what we can and can't own? When is the second amendment appropriate to cite and when isn't it? All this and more in this thread.

I'm at my last straw right now after reading an article that I found quite true until they said 'we don't need another 50 Shades'. The author of this article claims to not even like erotic fiction so how do they even know what is actually in the book. I myself have actually read the book and it's squeals, I myself don't really like erotica either yet I found myself pulled into this book, not because of the sex scenes but because of the story behind it. Each book has a start, a good middle even without the BDSM and a finish the makes you NEED to read the next book. Yes, I understand that this book has been referenced in very stupid ways to be way more then what it is, but…

What is our responsibility to each other as human beings? Do you agree that we are out brother's keeper? Meaning: You have a responsibility to care for your fellow man. Are we only supposed to care for ourselves, or are we supposed to care for eachother?

Okay, I'm honestly not sure how much of a debate there's even going to be because there's near-unanimous agreement on this topic on virtually every online community of which I have ever been a part, and I doubt that that'll be too different here... But whatever! I personally think it's ~ludicrous~ that gays aren't allowed to get their marriage on in so many first-world countries. It's just ridiculous that outdated religious prejudices still play such a large part in how minorities are perceived in places that are supposed to be advanced, and downright disgusting that oppressing and dehumanizing these minorities is basically considered the norm. Anybody strongly …

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So, a few days ago, a colleague of mine posted on FB about something "cute" that happened while she was picking her son from school. She said that, as she was picking her 6-year-old son João, a girl from his class came to her and said that João was always trying to kiss her. He then ran after her and, as usual, tried to kiss her. My colleague said she told him to ask the girl for a kiss instead of just trying to kiss her. He did so, but the girl still said no. She then said then told him to just blow the girl a kiss instead, and as they were walking back home, he kept complaining to her that the girl never lets him kiss her. My colleague then told him that he shou…

When I was growing up, I had to help around the house but my brother didn't. I always complained about it to my parents, and they would just say "he's a boy, he doesn't have to". This still upsets me when I think about it, and it's part of the reason why I hate housework so much. Housework is usually boring regardless, but I feel that if I had learned that housework is everyone's responsibility, I wouldn't hold such a grudge against it. So, how was housework dealt with when you were growing up? And if you had (or have) kids, how would you (or how do you) deal with it? a ) Girls do all the work, boys do none b ) Girls do most of the work, boys do some c ) Sam…

I realize that not a lot of people are educated on the topic of gender, so I'll explain it as best I can. Binary genders - male and female. Nonbinary genders (nb) - genders that fall outside of the male-female binary. Nonbinary Genders There are a lot of these, so I'll try to explain as many as I can as simple as I can. Agender - not identifying as a gender. Androgynous - partly male and partly female. Genderqueer - an umbrella term used for many nonbinary genders. Bigender - identifying as two different genders, with no gender taking preference over the other. (can be male and female, or a binary gender and a nonbinary gender) Trigender - identifying as …

Opponents of abortion continue to campaign across the country with the “personhood” proposal intended to prompt a legal challenge aimed at overturning Roe v. Wade, the 1973 U.S. Supreme Court decision that established a legal right to abortion. Personhood USA, the leader behind the movement, wants states like Florida, Montana, Ohio, Oregon, Nevada, Colorado and California to put “personhood” initiatives on 2012 ballots. The extremely controversial issue essentially questions at what point of conception is the being considered a human and the answer to that question could eventually challenge abortion and birth control. I found this on another site I'm on. I thi…

What is your opinion? Are they naturally more aggressive or is it all in the ownership? I've always wanted a pitbull, but unfortunately at a family dinner I had an argument with my parents/grandparents about it. (I live on my own, but it was brought up and immediately I was attacked for this.) It got me wondering what people honestly think about these dogs. I've heard so many great stories about them.

First off, I'm not an American, so I never celebrated Thanksgiving. But as a former History student and having an interest in History in general, I've read quite a lot about it, and I understand there is a polemic regarding the Native Americans, who find it an insult since they've suffered the loss of lands, hunger and poverty in the hands of the same "White People" who celebrate this date. I'd like to know you guys' opinions, not only Americans but anyone interested in this subjects. If you're American, do you celebrate it? Regardless of nationality, what do you think of Thanksgiving as a celebration? Do you think it's a valid holiday or an example of hypocrisy?

Ohai there! Now this is something that interests me a lot. When I was a teen, I was a fan of Finnish metal bands, and got to read a lot about Finland and Nordic countries. I remember being very surprised when finding out that, in those countries, and maybe in Europe as a whole, people don't have much physical contact with each other. Actually, in Nordic countries, almost not at all. For example, in those countries people only hug when they're very, very intimate. I also remember a soap opera character, again when I was a teen. Part of the story happened in the US and there was an American character, a teacher in a class for toddlers, who despised physical contact…

As always, please keep this free from abusive language, etc. Be nice. I don't know how it is around the world, but I do know that California has a bill in the works about transgender students. If a male student identifies as a girl, or if a female student identifies as a boy, then that student will be allowed to use the locker rooms and bathrooms of the gender with which they identify. What do you think? I'm having trouble with making a decision. I'm normally quite good at putting myself in other people's shoes, but I can't do it in this case because I've never cared that much about genitals. I don't know what it's like to feel like you were born wit…

I read that Victoria's Secret doesn't want to design bras for women that have had mastectomies because it's "complicated". That form of cancer runs in my biological dad's side of the family and it is no laughing matter and I think its sad that a store that promotes confidence won't even bother with that. Women who have had that procedure deserve bras that don't look like granny bras. What do you think?

i just saw a street vendor selling Fidger Spinners for like $2 (not quality ones for sure) but i was so curious and bought one it has 5 arms not 3 like the usual ones .. it's plastic .. makes some noise but not a lot of it .. and spins for about 2 minutes honestly i dont get the hype .. was is it for again ? stress ? focus ?! it's just distracting me from my reading .. what's your take on the fidget spinner ??