lizzyjane101

Hey everyone. I have a cloud Peophin uft if anyone wants her. (Adopted and zapped)
 
http://www.neopets.com/petlookup.phtml?pet=AwwwwwIneedone

A little bit of both? Mostly I was referring to the P&P reference (it's funny and clever and perfect, to be quite honest), but I've always thought the egg cave creatures were really cute. 

It's been so long since I've been on these forums, but I just had to share this cool piece of news with all you lovely strangers. I've got my last appointment at the end of December just to make sure, but it looks like I won't need to go anymore! I'm super excited about next year and feeling so much better.
You guys have always been so lovely and I'm gonna start posting again :D

Well that is good news!! I'm not nosy and wont delve but I'm sure you'd know if you were feeling like you needed to go in the future again -- I hope for you that that never happens and the past stays just where it is ;)

Congratulations and welcome back!
Also, your signature is fantastic.

It's been so long since I've been on these forums, but I just had to share this cool piece of news with all you lovely strangers. I've got my last appointment at the end of December just to make sure, but it looks like I won't need to go anymore! I'm super excited about next year and feeling so much better.
You guys have always been so lovely and I'm gonna start posting again :D

It's been so long since I've been on these forums, but I just had to share this cool piece of news with all you lovely strangers. I've got my last appointment at the end of December just to make sure, but it looks like I won't need to go anymore! I'm super excited about next year and feeling so much better.
You guys have always been so lovely and I'm gonna start posting again :D

It's been so long since I've been on these forums, but I just had to share this cool piece of news with all you lovely strangers. I've got my last appointment at the end of December just to make sure, but it looks like I won't need to go anymore! I'm super excited about next year and feeling so much better.
You guys have always been so lovely and I'm gonna start posting again :D

Thank you so much for addressing this! As a cisgender woman (and just a human being) I feel very uncomfortable when other humans try to use activities and items as justification for their gender identity.
 
Firstly, it is inherently cissexist (and just makes me sad inside) to say that not wanting to wear makeup makes someone less female, or that wanting to wear makeup makes them more female, etc. It also makes me worry that when people characterize their gender identities by saying things like "I don't like shopping/wearing uncomfortable high heels/deferring to men in conversation (exaggeration) therefore I am not female" because I think this neglects the entire cause of feminism. Not to undercut anyone's gender identity, but if those were the only reasons that someone was questioning their gender identity, I would be inclined to wonder if, as Tahalika said, they were "ashamed to admit [to being female] because of internalized misogyny." I make no attempt to claim, however, that this is actually common, or that anyone is not the gender, binary or nonbinary, that they identify as. The only person who has any authority on your gender identity is yourself.
 
Secondly, to refer back to who has authority on your gender identity, it also makes me sad inside when people do this because it's like they think they need evidence or justification for their identity. I know the world/society is not always fair on this, but you shouldn't need evidence. You're not making an argument--you're telling us your identity. The only reason you need is that you know that's who you are. Period. If people need evidence they are misunderstanding the issue. (I mean this in a cheering-everyone-on way, not a scolding-people way, to clarify.)
 
Anyway, just my two cents :) I love seeing respectful open conversations like this here! Such a wonderful community.

I know I've posted here earlier, but I'm gonna drop in to add another comment - if you're finding it hard to maintain the friendship with someone after breaking up with them, it's best to take a break from seeing them/talking to them, in order to give both of you some time alone to heal and reflect on thoughts and the like. Once you feel like you've had enough time apart, try being friends again. If it just doesn't work, it doesn't work, unfortunately. As I said previously, it all depends on the personalities of both parties and their intentions. If someone doesn't want to be friends, it's unfortunate and can be painful, but it's best to respect them and just leave it be.

UPDATE: 
 
Thank you everyone for your support! I ended up not talking to my mom about it and just doing it. If she asks then I'll give her my explanation as to why. 

That is such an awesome accomplishment, congratulations.
 
I'll start watching it right now to give you some feedback. :)

I hate it when you wanna quickly buy something but you have to scroll down the online equivalent of War and Peace just to get to it cause of the mass of images and nonsense. I don't care, I just want my codestone! 
 
Also I hate the junk from dailies. I don't know if it's possible for them to change the prizes but the same thing day in and day out gets boring. Not even expensive things but something new.
 
Aaaaand finally for me it's the impossible game avatars. I'm awful at games and no matter how many guides I read and videos I watch I am never getting those.
 
I think that'll be all.

For me, it's the TP users who say 'beat TP price' or 'lower than TP' etc, so you don't really know how much they're expecting, especially when EVERYONE selling a particular item says the same thing! <_<

Yeah, this has been a thread of really great advice. Basically, yes it is possible if that's what you both want. The absolute most important thing is communication. If you're not on the same page, it hands down will not work. If you're a shy person who is afraid of starting difficult conversations (totally understandable), that's going to have to be something you overcome. I'm having a lot of issues like this with myself and amongst my friends at the moment and honestly the huge difference between the successful ones and the painful, messy ones is communication. I have one friend who is now really close friends with her ex (who she had a very serious relationship with). I have another who decided to be friends, didn't take quite enough time to get over him, and ended up sleeping with the guy. It's an absolute mess right now.
But yeah, honesty is the key. And if either of you still have feelings for the other, take some time off. Don't be afraid of sitting down and really getting into your own head. Trust your instincts, if there's something wrong, put the breaks on. Take care of your feelings and stay attuned to how he's feeling.
 
Good luck (y)
And let us know how it goes (if you feel comfortable with that).
 
EDIT: I noticed some people are talking about different types of love. This is something I've really struggled with for a long time and really all I can say is make sure you know how you feel before you proceed. It's okay to still love him as a friend, but romantic feelings can get very messy very quickly.

While I do see what you're getting at, there's actually already a pretty established vocabulary for this, wherein the-three-letter-s-word-that-I-don't-know-if-I-can-say-here means your biological/genetic attributes and "gender" means your psychological identity. It is important to have a term that refers to the biological attributes of bodies because when you are discussing medical issues--for example, increased risks of certain cancers--these have a bearing on the issue, so I certainly understand where you're coming from with your desire for the vocab. While this-s-word-commonly-used-to-refer-to-reproduction does describe genetic makeup and biological appearance, it's also important to acknowledge that not everyone is born fitting neatly into the gender binary.

Sorry to post on an old-ish thread but I just wanted to chime in and say how great this discussion has been. (I've actually been impressed with how welcome Neopets spaces are in general to different genders identities.) My gender is complicated, so I appreciate it. (BTW, on Neopets some people have their gender as "Robot," they should make that a standard option!)

Neopets to me has it's ups and downs, but I guess since I became interested much later on in life and I'm a fan of Sonic and other anthro-animal characters and games that it's a branch of my enjoyment of cartoon/animated animals.
But I CAN understand your frustration and boredom. Jumpstart doesn't really know what to do with Neopets and that is likely part of the equation, the other half is they got rid likely a huge chunk of the TNT team who made Neopets out of their blood, sweat, tears, hopes, dreams, nightmares, time and asparagus.

Genderqueer here. My pronouns are they/them/their.
 
Going to try to write about this but I'm dyslexic so I may not get my point across properly. Please ask for clarification if anything I write is confusing and I'll try to find another way to express it.
There are three options for the biological sex you are born with: male, female or intersex. Your sex is what's between your legs. Your gender is in your brain. Sex and gender are different things. I hate people who go "oh but gender is a social construct" like that completely discredits all genders that aren't cisgender. Our identities as human beings are completely and utterly tied up in how we interact with other people. That's society! Who you are is shaped by how you interact with everything.
And I'm going to stop on this now because I can't write about this properly.
 
Anyway, I loathe it when people call me a woman, or refer to me as she. I've only told a few people in person that I'm genderqueer and what my pronouns are as it will cause too many problems if I tried to explain it to family and work. (If any of my facebook friends look at my info page they'll see it but nobody looks there anyway :P ) So I just get on with it. When I'm in a more stable position I'll probably leave Narnia but not until then.
 
So far, the funniest question I've had about my gender from a person I've told was "oh, it's it because you can't have children?" (They weren't being nasty, they just didn't have a clue. )

Okay, old topic, but it's still a rather relevant one considering more and more people are learning/opening up to trans/nonbinary genders now. And cause it's a pretty important topic to me. But still, very sorry if this is pushing it, since the last post was August!
 
For the most part this thread seems quite positive. No one's trying to delegitimize nonbinary genders or neopronouns, or trying to say that being transgender is weird; which is always good, a lot of forums still view this kind of thing in an extremely toxic and dangerous light. But this forum does have some issues in itself with it, if people don't mind me addressing.
 
I'll start minor first, and that's a bit of a grammar thing I learned myself. Cisgendered and Transgendered aren't exactly the correct way of saying it, instead opting for Cisgender and Transgender. Reason being that the -ed implies something happened to cause the person to change into that, which can be seen as quite offensive to those who see their identity as something they've had since birth; nothing something that's changed them. Think of the difference between yellow paper and yellowed paper.
 
Second, quite a few posts seem to have a hefty load of cissexism to it. To anyone who doesn't know, cissexism is a term that describes saying how things are inherently gendered, like saying dresses are for females and cars are for males. Obviously, we know that's not true, so it's not really appropriate to describe activities, items, and basically anything on gendered terms; any gender can like it, and it doesn't make anyone less of their gender. It's true we live in a society that basically has gendered items as such, but that doesn't mean we have to stick to that, do we?
 
Ah, I guess that's basically it with my critique, so let's go more personal. For a long time I always felt like I was something more than just a girl; ever since I was around 12, I believe that's when things really started feeling weird for me. I wasn't sure what I felt like; sometimes I felt like a girl, but I had a desire to be a boy. At that young age, I thought that meant I wanted to be a boy "permanently," so I contemplated the idea of surgery. It terrified me, but at that young age I thought you couldn't be any gender other than what you were assigned at birth without surgery.
 
Years later, I contemplated more and decides I didn't exactly want to be a boy, but I didn't feel like a girl either. But even then this fluctuated; sometimes I felt like a girl, sometimes a boy, and sometimes I had that stagnant feeling of being neither. One that I could describe at my age, since I never heard of a term for it before.
 
Then I joined Tumblr, and learned a lot more about feminism and stuff like that. As I learned about misogyny and how women were basically demeaned to feel inferior to men in most cases, I thought that this was a sign that I was a girl, but all this time I was just ashamed to admit it because of internalize misogyny. So for a while I was content with that, I was a woman and didn't have to feel ashamed anymore because it was just people being nasty; not actually a case of girls being worse.
 
Then I learned about non-binary genders, or more specifically, I learned about agender; the lack of a gender. At this term, I was happy for a bit cause I thought I had finally figured myself out for real; because I still had felt that weird bit of feeling like nothing on occasion, where I hated being called a girl or woman. But I kept learning more and more identities. Bigender, Genderqueer, Demigirl. So many I wasn't too sure of that might've described me.
 
For a while I played with Neutrois for a bit, as it was described as "feeling neutral gender/equally male and female." And to me, that sounded right for a while. Until there were days I felt more like one gender over another, or a mix of genders.
 
More searching and learning eventually lead me to finding out the term that described me best; Genderfluid. Meaning my gender fluctuates from day to day, sometimes influenced by my mood or my state of mind and sometimes just changing randomly. For the most part I feel either female or agender, or a mix of the two, but there are times I feel male, a mix of male and agender/female, a mix of all three, or sometimes even something else entirely. Finally being able to figure out myself made me feel so excited, like the world was finally opened up to me.
 
Needless to say though, I'm still closeted in my real life about this. On the internet I feel safer to talk about it; even if there's some nasty words flung at me, ultimately I don't feel like I'm in danger. People don't send me threats of violence or death, they just call me special or "fake" and barely come up with an argument after that. I don't feel that way in real life though. I don't feel that way with my family, or my friends outside of the internet.
 
I live in the south, and sad to say but the stereotypes of people here being bigoted beyond belief is very real. Every day I hear my grandma and dad say racial slurs, talk about how homosexuality is wrong and transgender people are "defiers of God." Talk about how the country is going to ruin because anyone who isn't pale skinned is an illegal immigrant, how they're just being catered to unlike "us real working Americans."
 
I'm scared to tell them of how I feel gender-wise. How I very well fit under the transgender umbrella since I don't really identify with my assigned gender all the time. Because to them they aren't people, they're just "fakers," "blasphemers," "abominations." We aren't human to them, and I already get treated badly enough for my mental health. If I told my grandma I felt transgender, I'm very positive she would kick me out.
 
It sad, living in a world where you can't really be happy with yourself unless you feel hidden. Because otherwise your very safety feels at risk, your life or stability or anything in between. I'm happy knowing I'm genderfluid, I'm happy sharing it with people who at worst would say I'm a "genderspecial," and I'm very happy sharing it with people who are supportive or understanding of it. I'm terrified at the idea that my family or people in my town would find out, deem me a freak and make me yet another headline as either a person who committed suicide or was murdered for just being myself.
 
But to me, no matter what, my gender is important. It's a part of me, changing every day much like a new pair of clothing. To me it's real, and legitimate, and it makes me happy to finally know what I am. I hope I can live long enough to see trans/non-binary genders be more accepted than they are now, where it's a norm to say "they" instead of "he or she." I probably won't, but it's a nice thought to think; especially since we have access to stuff like the internet now, letting all sorts of minds come together to make their thoughts apparent and call out the troubling things within society. Maybe it's a pipe dream, but maybe it's not so farfetched of a thought.
 
Anyway, got a bit long here, but like I said, this is a pretty important topic to me. I felt like sharing my own experience with gender and I really hope you don't mind; I never really went in depth with it before, so this was a change of pace.
 
In whatever case, I wish the best of luck to people who are questioning their own gender! Keep looking mates, you'll find that fit one day, even if it turns out to be something of your own creation to define yourself!

The first time I had a panic attack I thought I was having a heart attack, however my parents told me calm down because they knew I was simply getting myself worked up. As hard as it may seem during an anxiety attack, it is so important to simply breathe and remind yourself it will pass. My ex boyfriend used to have extremely bad anxiety and he often met with a therapist. Maybe you could try this out? Either way, push through it and find a way to calm yourself down! Good luck :)

I would like to see a plot with more meat to it as well. Even the plot event that accompanied Krawk Island's revamp was a bit skimpy. Don't get me wrong -- I enjoy the small plot events too, it's just that they are over so fast.
 
The Altador plot, the Tale of Woe, the Lost Desert plot, the Curse of Maraqua... I'm sure there's a few others since I wasn't even playing Neopets yet during some of these... but these seemed to have more substance. They also seem to be the ones that added something to Neopets' history. I'm trying to remember if the Faeries' Ruin was the last one like this. I don't really count the War of the Obelisk because of its 'continuation' factor -- being used as not only a revamp to Tyrannia, but to the Battledome.
 
And even though I completed the Altador plot ages ago, I always liked the fact that they kept it available to play for anyone just coming in that wasn't here to participate originally. Why can't some of them be more like that? Another avatar, another trophy... who wouldn't like that?

I haven't been on TDN in a while, but as long as I'm alive, this thread will continue to be relevant.
Yep, this has been confirmed as her last series. She got two, so about average really.
 
Moffat is good at scary. I think I mentioned earlier his one offs in series' 1, 2, 3, and 4. They're all fantastic. The problem he has, I think, is character development. When he was using other people's characters he was phenomenal, but when he's left to write his own some holes appear. His ideas are fantastic. I would've been about 9 or 10 when series 1 aired and that was when I discovered my phobia of gas masks. I couldn't watch the second episode, I was just too scared. It's the only time I've ever had nightmares because of a t.v show.
Yes! It just got so boring. I'm excited to see who the next companion is. I really really want River to be a proper main companion and she would be perfect for 12 because they're better age-wise. Unfortunately, I don't think that will happen.
Capaldi is a fabulous actor and I adore him to bits <3
Don't even get me started on this one. I don't quite know how to explain it, but there seems to be a trend lately in film where a hero has to make a terrible decision along the lines of 'one versus many'. Rather than making the difficult decision, the hero backs down from the responsibility and basically goes 'okay, well I guess the world will just have to burn'. Take 'The Wedding of River Song' for example. I thought that whole thing was so ooc. As if River would put her own suffering before the fate of the entire universe. It always just so happens that it works out in the end and both the one and the many are saved. If actual physics applied in Moffat's world, then that episode would have gone completely differently. People were dying already from the tides. Clara chose one creature, albeit an important and majestic creature, over the lives of every single person on Earth. I'm sorry, but the way it just hatched, flew away, and left us with a convenient new moon was just unrealistic. I didn't like the way that decision was portrayed as a choice between selfishness and compassion, because that's not what it was.
 
Anyway, sorry for the rant. Such negativity. I'm super excited for the next season, I think it could be marvellous. So many possibilities.

Step one: Find the nearest animal shelter with open rooms that you can go in to play with animals
Step two: Go to nearest animal shelter
Step three: Go into the room and let yourself be covered in tiny animals.
 
Seriously.
There's a cat shelter I go to, and they have a few open rooms that have cats in there. You walk in, and you're covered in cats. If you lie down, you are in danger of disapering under cats.
And it feels amazing.
There's so much love directed at you. "It's a person! Person! Person! Person! Pet meeeee!! Person! I love you person!"
 
I also have the tendency to sleep if anything is wrong.
Feeling sad? Sleep.
Angry? Sleep?
Sleepy... Sleep
 
Screaming helps.
Tell anyone close to you that you are going to scream, and then do so. As loudly as you can.
Then, get mad.
Punch your pillow. Throw it on the ground. Body slam it. Get the anger out (even if you don't have any). it feels great.
 
 
Here are some fun links that might help
 
 
Ever want to write a paper with the greatest literacy minds? Here's your chance! Start writing, and you'll notice that there are a few people who would like to help.
 
Want to watch something on netflix, but you're not sure what?
 
Cute Fandom (Sherlock, avengers, hannibal doctor who) art
 
Create a cute chibi!
 
Read about stupid customers.

I have some bookmarked links that really help me de-stress. Here they go:
 
" raining.fm is one of quite a few ‘rain noise’ sites on the internet, and on this one you can set the levels! That is, you can make it rain loudly and thunder quietly, or both loudly, or go all out with a MASSIVE STORM OF DOOM or whatever. It’s really great to read to while lying in bed. You can set it to fade out after a certain period of time, too. coding.fm, meanwhile, is a site which lets you listen to people typing. There’s three modes, one of which is basically people punching the keyboard angrily, which is amusing. soundsleeping lets you make a ‘mix’ of up to five sounds at a time! There’s all sorts of stuff to pick from and you can choose which earphone it favours, etc. Some of the sounds aren’t the highest quality recordings ever, but it’s still pretty neat. coffitivity is one of my favourite ‘coffee shop’ ones. It’s just nice and simple. And not one of those ones where someone’s knocking a chair over every five seconds, which is always appreciated. simplynoise does white/pink/brown noise generation and allows for oscillation. White is best for sound masking, brown for sleep and pink for general relaxation. It also has a sleep timer for if you fall asleep to it. Great for tinnitus, which I get when I have bad hayfever sometimes. simplyrain, its sister site, is yet another rain site. It’s pretty high-quality in its recordings for a free site and has a mobile app (as, I think, simplynoise does). There’s pay-what-you-want downloads of the sounds for an iPod, too. It has oscillation, lets you fiddle around with thunder sounds, etc. rainycafe just plays both rain and coffeeshop noises together. I don’t think the rain loops, though? I may be wrong, my browser may have messed something up. Anyway, it’s neat. And stops me having to have a million tabs open to combine the two." That awesome list and the descriptions were taken from this awesome tumblr :)