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Holy cow, that's AMAZING! So, so gorgeous! You've definitely got my vote for that.

Hurrah, a second basket! I agree with some of the earlier comments that this event is a tad disappointing compared to past years (not that it's ever that exciting, but this manages to feel even less so), but...it's still nice to have something going on, even if it's not much! And I'm excited to see what happens once the meter's filled up.

This is such a good thread - I'm so happy to see that everyone is in agreement on this!
 
Honestly, I think one of the most important things that any parent can do is teach their children - especially their sons - about the imperative value of consent. The responsibility always falls on the shoulders of women, whether it's little girls getting blamed for not letting little boys 'kiss' them, or women being blamed for harassment from men. And the best way to fix that is to start with children. Like Ali Cat said, both boys and girls are learning from things like this: Boys are learning to harass girls and girls are learning that their feelings don't matter. It's really awful how deeply ingrained these ideas are in us; like, of course your colleague didn't listen to your comment, because she's also learned these lessons about consent from childhood. "Boys will be boys" is practically a foundation of society (see: all the stories about frats recently, although I suppose that's a uniquely US disaster) and it's just...so horrible and so exhausting. Anyway, your post reminds me of this amazing video I saw the other day. So worth a watch!
 
Idk - I just have a lot of feelings about this issue, and maybe this isn't the most coherent post in the world, but I'm glad we're talking about this because it's SO important.

This is such a good thread - I'm so happy to see that everyone is in agreement on this!
 
Honestly, I think one of the most important things that any parent can do is teach their children - especially their sons - about the imperative value of consent. The responsibility always falls on the shoulders of women, whether it's little girls getting blamed for not letting little boys 'kiss' them, or women being blamed for harassment from men. And the best way to fix that is to start with children. Like Ali Cat said, both boys and girls are learning from things like this: Boys are learning to harass girls and girls are learning that their feelings don't matter. It's really awful how deeply ingrained these ideas are in us; like, of course your colleague didn't listen to your comment, because she's also learned these lessons about consent from childhood. "Boys will be boys" is practically a foundation of society (see: all the stories about frats recently, although I suppose that's a uniquely US disaster) and it's just...so horrible and so exhausting. Anyway, your post reminds me of this amazing video I saw the other day. So worth a watch!
 
Idk - I just have a lot of feelings about this issue, and maybe this isn't the most coherent post in the world, but I'm glad we're talking about this because it's SO important.

This is such a good thread - I'm so happy to see that everyone is in agreement on this!
 
Honestly, I think one of the most important things that any parent can do is teach their children - especially their sons - about the imperative value of consent. The responsibility always falls on the shoulders of women, whether it's little girls getting blamed for not letting little boys 'kiss' them, or women being blamed for harassment from men. And the best way to fix that is to start with children. Like Ali Cat said, both boys and girls are learning from things like this: Boys are learning to harass girls and girls are learning that their feelings don't matter. It's really awful how deeply ingrained these ideas are in us; like, of course your colleague didn't listen to your comment, because she's also learned these lessons about consent from childhood. "Boys will be boys" is practically a foundation of society (see: all the stories about frats recently, although I suppose that's a uniquely US disaster) and it's just...so horrible and so exhausting. Anyway, your post reminds me of this amazing video I saw the other day. So worth a watch!
 
Idk - I just have a lot of feelings about this issue, and maybe this isn't the most coherent post in the world, but I'm glad we're talking about this because it's SO important.

Alright, I'm sure I've posted in this topic long long ago...but right now the user lookups thing is killing me! (You know, not to be overdramatic... ;) I know I can see mine with preview, but I wish I could see other people's. I can't wait for that to be fixed.

This is such a good thread - I'm so happy to see that everyone is in agreement on this!
 
Honestly, I think one of the most important things that any parent can do is teach their children - especially their sons - about the imperative value of consent. The responsibility always falls on the shoulders of women, whether it's little girls getting blamed for not letting little boys 'kiss' them, or women being blamed for harassment from men. And the best way to fix that is to start with children. Like Ali Cat said, both boys and girls are learning from things like this: Boys are learning to harass girls and girls are learning that their feelings don't matter. It's really awful how deeply ingrained these ideas are in us; like, of course your colleague didn't listen to your comment, because she's also learned these lessons about consent from childhood. "Boys will be boys" is practically a foundation of society (see: all the stories about frats recently, although I suppose that's a uniquely US disaster) and it's just...so horrible and so exhausting. Anyway, your post reminds me of this amazing video I saw the other day. So worth a watch!
 
Idk - I just have a lot of feelings about this issue, and maybe this isn't the most coherent post in the world, but I'm glad we're talking about this because it's SO important.

This is such a good thread - I'm so happy to see that everyone is in agreement on this!
 
Honestly, I think one of the most important things that any parent can do is teach their children - especially their sons - about the imperative value of consent. The responsibility always falls on the shoulders of women, whether it's little girls getting blamed for not letting little boys 'kiss' them, or women being blamed for harassment from men. And the best way to fix that is to start with children. Like Ali Cat said, both boys and girls are learning from things like this: Boys are learning to harass girls and girls are learning that their feelings don't matter. It's really awful how deeply ingrained these ideas are in us; like, of course your colleague didn't listen to your comment, because she's also learned these lessons about consent from childhood. "Boys will be boys" is practically a foundation of society (see: all the stories about frats recently, although I suppose that's a uniquely US disaster) and it's just...so horrible and so exhausting. Anyway, your post reminds me of this amazing video I saw the other day. So worth a watch!
 
Idk - I just have a lot of feelings about this issue, and maybe this isn't the most coherent post in the world, but I'm glad we're talking about this because it's SO important.

So, a few days ago, a colleague of mine posted on FB about something "cute" that happened while she was picking her son from school.
 
She said that, as she was picking her 6-year-old son João, a girl from his class came to her and said that João was always trying to kiss her. He then ran after her and, as usual, tried to kiss her. My colleague said she told him to ask the girl for a kiss instead of just trying to kiss her. He did so, but the girl still said no.
 
She then said then told him to just blow the girl a kiss instead, and as they were walking back home, he kept complaining to her that the girl never lets him kiss her. My colleague then told him that he should just keep on asking the girl for a kiss, even if only one; to tell her that he'd be gentle and she'd like it.
 
People commented on the post saying that kids are like that, and that the situation was oh-so-cute, etc. But I felt quite sick about it.
 
Okay, so first of all, I'm a feminist, so I might be reading too much into it just because I'm so used to rotten stuff towards women. But in my opinion my colleague, as a mom, missed a perfect opportunity to teach her son about CONSENT. The little girl clearly didn't want to be kissed by him, ever, but instead of pointing that out to João and telling him he should respect that, the mom basically told him to insist, and tell the girl "she'd like it".
 
I mean, seriously? In my opinion that just reeks of the "boys will be boys" fallacy. I think respect towards women, and especially CONSENT should be taught since the early age, and that could have been a golden moment that just got lost.
 
What do you guys think?
 
ps: here's a screen of the post, in case someone reads Portuguese (or even Spanish, for that matter). Names are blurred for privacy.

It's so good to know I'm not the only one!
 
What's even more frustrating is that I commented on her post, trying to explain nicely why I thought that was problematic and all, but she responded by being super passive-agressive and basically saying stuff like "children are innocent, you've got a dirty mind" and "it's my son and I know how to educate him, thank you very much".
 
Like... seriously? She probably didn't even understand what I meant. Sigh.

Got the Kiko Pop avatar today! Hurray, at last! Makes up for my horrific losses in FC today...almost.

I just got it! Bought some new cheese items (Soft White Cheese and Quadruple Fudge Cheese), shuffled around the order, and refreshed a couple times. Thanks guys. :)

I finally got the Drackonack - Hungry avatar!!! I've been trying sporadically for MONTHS and today I managed to get it with less than 30 seconds of refreshing! So thrilled!

I got the Cheeseroller avatar today! Hooray - one more pretty-exasperating daily I don't have to worry about anymore!

I got the Cheeseroller avatar today! Hooray - one more pretty-exasperating daily I don't have to worry about anymore!

Finally hit the 9 million NP mark! :D I know, I know, it's not that much...but it's always nice to reach such a big round number!

The problem is that they moved Terabytes of data, and there was inevitably some corruption. It is literally billions of lines of code written nearly continuously over 16 years, with numerous staff changes (very few, if any, of the original programmers are still there) and dozens of protocols (the official, standard ones for the internet, not TNT-specific ones -- it's likely that TNT's programming conventions and practices have changed over the years, too -- if they even had many standards in the early years). So when they try to fix something, it can break something else.
 
The first move was so corrupted, they had to repeat part of it and start over. I think people are underestimating the size and complexity of the problem. It's not like trying to find a needle in a haystack. It's more like trying to find a hundred needles in all the haystacks on earth, without the aid of a magnet.
 
I'm frustrated, too. I'm sure none of us are nearly as frustrated as the programmers trying to solve it. I believe that they have skilled programmers, probably a few extra on temporary assignment from Jump Start. Enough? Well, the more people you have mucking around, the more they might actually break things worse... I'm not sure management can make them work faster. I think they've got the priorities right, and their current method of working on it, with occasional downtimes at night when needed, is working. I know some people say they'd rather they take the site down for longer and fix it, but I'm not sure that would really help them fix it faster. I'm sure they're highly motivated to solve this, so they can work on new content and keep their jobs.
 
Updating old code is probably one of those things on the to-do list that never actually happens. Now they're being forced to do it. It's taking a long time, but the site might actually end up working much better -- and be ready to move in exciting new directions -- once it's done. If there's anyone left to enjoy it by the time they finish...

This is horrible! Thanks for keeping everyone in the loop on this glitch!

Got the Evil Coconut avvie on my first try today! Finally, one less daily to have to do! :P

Got the Evil Coconut avvie on my first try today! Finally, one less daily to have to do! :P

Man, I really want to try this out...but he wants two Landfish, which are ~19k right now. Not worth it with potential stat decreases. Hopefully inflation goes down soon!

You are now eligible to use 'Aboard The Coincidence' as an avatar on the NeoBoards!
 
12 mins left before the timer ends, I finally got this avvie :D I was so thrilled, since I started out really late and there were times I thought I'm not gonna make it. However, I didn't give up and that's the main point ;)

Thanks to the_microwave's earlier post, I too now have the Dice Escape avatar! I had assumed that it was just one of those games that wouldn't load for me, but I tried it in Chrome and it worked, so thank you!

Woke up to two new trophies! Flycatcher and Tyranu Evavu! Silver and bronze respectively, no gold...but I'm still pretty pleased!

Thank you so much! You're the best! :) Appreciate it lots.