antiaircraft Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Hmm. I guess I've never really had much of an argument with either parent. I do object to plenty of things, but I defer pretty quickly if they're pushed. It might have something to do with my family's Chinese roots, which places a lot more weight on seniority than most people do today (or I'm just a wimp :P ). Now, me and my brother on the other hand... xD CAV, I'm sorry to hear that you have to deal with so much right now. I can't really offer much advice, but do keep in mind that sometimes the things we're most explosive and irrational about are the things we care for the most. Emotion screws us all up when something hits too close to home. I respect you for being willing to speak out bluntly and honestly even when others may not approve, but sometimes it really is best just to back down and let the other party sort themself out. That goes both ways, in many conflicts. Quote
Tyler. Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I don't talk after a fight, for at least 2 hours Domino, you're alive! Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I haven't talked to a family member for the last 2 days, with the exception being my brother, and even still it wasn't much. I've found that when I'm frustrated with mum, it helps me to take a random glass jar outside and smash it against the concrete. Sure, it's not exactly mature, but it's satisfying, and as long as I clean up the pieces, no one gets hurt. (That might not work so well in New York though.) That could work in NY, but I don't have any jars lying around. What I usually do after a spat with mum is storm off to my room and listen to really loud music through my headphones to cut myself off from the world, and sometimes work on something creative. The second most common alternative is listening to really loud music until mum comes in and then we share in a cry-fit for as long as the tissue box allows. Unfortunately, that's not really an option for males. The only way I can calm myself down is by being here, darkSpyro, or playing games. I've tried the count to 10, I ended up making a hole in the wall. I tried to shout into my pillow, it was loud enough that my little brother told me to shut up. I tried pacing back and forth, I threw the TV remote and broke it. And the cry-fits would happen when I was 7 and me and my mother would have a tiny little conflict. Quote
Masaryk Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 True. I don't think my family even had glass jars. It does sounds kind of fun. That could work in NY, but I don't have any jars lying around. Don't pickles, relish, olives, jam, sauerkraut, etc come in glass jars in the US? The only way I can calm myself down is by being here, darkSpyro, or playing games. I've tried the count to 10, I ended up making a hole in the wall. I tried to shout into my pillow, it was loud enough that my little brother told me to shut up. I tried pacing back and forth, I threw the TV remote and broke it. And the cry-fits would happen when I was 7 and me and my mother would have a tiny little conflict. Everyone has something different that works well for them to diffuse anger. For me, it usually involves death metal or viking metal, going for a bit of a drive, and going for a walk in the woods. My husband breaks things. Usually, it's video games he gets mad at. In the past few years, he's broken 2 keyboards, and all of our controllers have teeth marks. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Don't pickles, relish, olives, jam, sauerkraut, etc come in glass jars in the US? Everyone has something different that works well for them to diffuse anger. For me, it usually involves death metal or viking metal, going for a bit of a drive, and going for a walk in the woods. My husband breaks things. Usually, it's video games he gets mad at. In the past few years, he's broken 2 keyboards, and all of our controllers have teeth marks. Yes they come in jars, but I have none of those items. If I did, I would drop the jar from the roof. I don't bite my controllers or smash my laptop.......I just play games and go online.... I wish music would help. But it doesn't. Not nearly enough. Quote
Seliphra Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Have you tried beating the heck out of your pillow? I find that helps...then I hang with my bird or my dog, but if you don't have pets that...doesn't help much ...*Sweat* This post has been edited by a member of staff (Spritzie) because of a violation of the forum rules. Please do not use curse words in your posts, even by replacing letters. The words have been removed. Please check your user inbox to see if you have been contacted regarding this incident, then review our rules. Quote
Sofa Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 When I'm angry with someone I write a letter saying what it is they've done that's made me angry, and explaining my feelings etc, then tear it into tiny shreds. It helps get stuff out of my system to write it all down without actually ranting at whoever it is and making things worse, and tearing it up is kind of therapeutic. I guess everyone just needs to find something that works for them though. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Have you tried beating the out of your pillow? I find that helps...then I hang with my bird or my dog, but if you don't have pets that...doesn't help much ...*Sweat* Tried it. I blanked out while doing it and when my thoughts returned I saw a hole in the wall. I'd try out the pet trick, if I had a snake. When I'm angry with someone I write a letter saying what it is they've done that's made me angry, and explaining my feelings etc, then tear it into tiny shreds. It helps get stuff out of my system to write it all down without actually ranting at whoever it is and making things worse, and tearing it up is kind of therapeutic. I guess everyone just needs to find something that works for them though. I know that won't work. Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Don't pickles, relish, olives, jam, sauerkraut, etc come in glass jars in the US? Yeah they do. But those aren't things my family ever bought. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I've only ever bought pickles out of those things. I can't talk. Not in RL. Not here. Too painful. Quote
Sofa Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Yeah they do. But those aren't things my family ever bought. You've never had jam at home? Wow! Incidentally, why does jam get called 'jelly' in America anyway? And what do you call what we call jelly? (As in, the wobbly stuff that you have at kid's parties). These things always confuse me, I never understand why when the language used in America comes from England you end up with these inconsistencies. Quote
Wembly Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Hmm, that is interesting, I never really thought about that before but I guess that's the whole principle of colloquialism and vernacular though... I have no idea why we call it jelly not jam, but in the store, there is actually a distinct difference between jelly and jam, basically meaning there are 2 different kinds of jam (one called jelly, one called jam) which are almost identical :rolleyes_anim: And I'm not sure what you wobbly stuff you are referring to but if it is gelatin, then we call it jello. This? Quote
Sofa Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 That looks like jelly, so presumably jello = jelly. I don't think I've ever seen blue jelly/o before though, quite exciting. I think you occasionally get a jam-like thing that's called jelly here, I think its when there are no bits or pulp or anything in it, and its clear rather than opaque. I've only seen cranberry jelly and mint jelly though, and those might have just come over from America. All very confusing. Food and cookery in general bewilder me a bit though, like who first discovered how to make cheese, because it's not just a case of letting milk go off normally, so it can't have been done by accident, but surely once you'd noticed the milk start to turn most people would've got rid of it? Um, yes, I'll stop now, but it is intriguing...(to my crazy brain at least!) Quote
Masaryk Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 We always have foods that come in glass jars. I can't imagine not having pickles, hot peppers, olives, jam, and other things like that. What do you guys put on hamburgers? (well, minus the jam) Or do Americans not cook hamburgers at home? :P Jam is typically made with whole cooked fruits, whereas jelly is made with just the juices. Jello is a brand name for flavoured gelatin desserts in North America. There are many other brands too, but it is one of those things that usually gets called by the most popular brand name when referring to it categorically. I don't like doing that with things, since I have no reason to give free advertising to any one brand over others. Flavoured gelatin comes in many flavours in North America. The blue stuff is usually raspberry. They use blue to differentiate, since red is already taken up by cherry and strawberry. Canadian English has a lot more in common with British English, but we do use a lot of Americanisms. And then there's some words and phrases that are just Canadian. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 We always have foods that come in glass jars. I can't imagine not having pickles, hot peppers, olives, jam, and other things like that. What do you guys put on hamburgers? (well, minus the jam) Or do Americans not cook hamburgers at home? :P We cook at home. But I don't get any of that (olives, jam, hot pepers). I only ever get pickles, and even still, never do I put it on a hamburger. I just use cheese and ketchup. Quote
Masaryk Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Ketchup is so boring. I don't think I'd really want a hamburger without dill pickles. They are my favourite burger topping. That, and zucchini relish. I hate sweet pickles, though. Quote
:)Doc Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Psht, ya'll should just get a hamburger with ketchup! That's what I do :P Quote
Tyler. Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I'm a vegetarian so I feel left out in the posts above me Quote
Masaryk Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Then what do you put on a veggie burger, Tyler? Learn to adapt. :P Quote
Domino Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Veggie Burgers are good. Not so much the boca burgers, but the garden burgers. :D I have....ketchup lettuce and onion. and Cheese. Is it weird that I only like tomato based condiments? Quote
Masaryk Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Is it weird that I only like tomato based condiments? I think that most people prefer tomato-based condiments. I, however, have an anti-preference to them. Quote
-Ryan Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 -Just got back from chess match.- Won both of my games. :nerd: Never had a veggie burger. If I wanted one I could probably just go mow the lawn and eat the cut grass, though. That's about the same thing, i've heard. -shrug- Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 If that is the case Ryan, then they taste bad. I was playing sports in the park when I tripped, fell, and some grass got in my mouth. I don't think I'd really want a hamburger without dill pickles. I hate pickles on a burger. Something cold on something hot. Ew. I also add a spice that adds an extra kick to the burger. Quote
-Ryan Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I've done that in the street. Faceplanting after running into a car while trying to catch a football is quite embarrasing. And asphault does not taste good. I hate onions and pickles on a cheeseburger. Just. No. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I hate onions and pickles on a cheeseburger. Just. No. HOW DID YOU KNOW I HATE THE SAME THING!? Seriously though, all I want on a cheeseburger is cheese, and ketchup. Quote
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