Wembly Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Haha, well, there's something seemingly bad that turns happy for you. I'm currently looking for a good seafood stew recipe but can't find anything I like so far. Quote
:)Doc Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Hm. I'm no good with food, so I suggest Google! :D Quote
Wembly Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Yeah, that's where I was looking. I'm looking for a kind of stock based stew instead of a tomato or cream base. No luck so far. Still searching for something good. Quote
:)Doc Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Oooh, sounds yummy. Now you made me hungry :P Quote
j_l_e_s_t Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Hey wassup everybody. I'm kinda new here. Quote
:)Doc Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Hey wassup everybody. I'm kinda new here. Hey man that's alright. Although I do suggest introducing yourself over here, just cause that whole section is reserved for that kinda stuff :P Introduce Yo'self Quote
-Ryan Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 You guys know how trees need support when their really small? Well I just saw the word 'crutch' while reading the last page and felt the need to share that on the way home I saw a tree with crutches duct-taped to either side. xD Hi, new guy. ^^ Sorry about the thing with your dad, CAV. :( -not sure what to say- Quote
:)Doc Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Hi, new guy. ^^ Sorry about the thing with your dad, CAV. :( -not sure what to say- That new guy is my little brother :D I just read that CAV and I'm sorry too :( Quote
Tyler. Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 hey Doc's little brother :D I'm sorry CAV :( And I though I had a bad day... Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Thanks guys. I don't want to talk to any family whatsoever for the next few days. It'll be hard, but I'm going to attempt that. I'm just in no mood to talk to any of them. Quote
-Ryan Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Awww, does that mean i'm not your non-biological brother? I think I am. I'm atleast your pet squirrel which still counts as family. Quote
livvy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 CAV, I really am sorry about all the crap that's going on in your life. The worst type of tough situation to be in is one with your parent, because there are all kinds of parent excuses that must be valid because they're the adult and they said so. And it's frustrating. And the only thing you can really do is just try to keep your temper. A fight can only escalate as far as you let it. Also, I think your idea of getting out of the house might be a good one, if not necessarily a responsible one. It might not have the effect on him that you're looking for, but it will at least give you time to calm down. I wouldn't expect him to be calm when you get back though. Either he really doesn't love you and will just be mad as heck, or (and this is more likely) he really does love you and will be frantic and upset. But you'll be calmer. I've found that when I'm frustrated with mum, it helps me to take a random glass jar outside and smash it against the concrete. Sure, it's not exactly mature, but it's satisfying, and as long as I clean up the pieces, no one gets hurt. (That might not work so well in New York though.) Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I've found that when I'm frustrated with mum, it helps me to take a random glass jar outside and smash it against the concrete. Sure, it's not exactly mature, but it's satisfying, and as long as I clean up the pieces, no one gets hurt. (That might not work so well in New York though.) For some reason, the thought of you outside, smashing glass jars is hard to imagine, though rather amusing. I don't remember what I did when I was frustrated. I think I just locked myself in my room and read or listened to music until I calmed down, and my mom had calmed down. Then we had the round of apologies. Quote
livvy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I don't do it often, of course. We'd run out of glass jars. :P What I usually do after a spat with mum is storm off to my room and listen to really loud music through my headphones to cut myself off from the world, and sometimes work on something creative. The second most common alternative is listening to really loud music until mum comes in and then we share in a cry-fit for as long as the tissue box allows. Unfortunately, that's not really an option for males. Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 True. I don't think my family even had glass jars. It does sounds kind of fun. With me and my mom, the time between the fight and apologies didn't last long. We'd just both be upset, and then we'd talk about it and work it out. Quote
Domino Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I'm sorry that you're having problems with your family CAV. Tis...yucky. Honestly. Luckily, I don't fight with my family too, too much. But when I'm mad, which happens....ehhhh. Once a month or so... :laughingsmiley: I either go into my room and just blast music through my headphones until I can't think or hear anything, or go for a long drive. And blast music. Although that's not really an option if you can't drive. Or write. Or call and vent through a friend. Thats usually the best way. :/ Edit: I actually had a real fight with my mom for the first time a little bit ago. We talked it out. It was weird. I've never really talked like that with my mom before. o_O Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 My mom and I do better with talking first now, but I swear, her first thought when we talk, is to lecture. Or to bring up something that has nothing to do with our current conversation, just so she can lecture me about that. :laughingsmiley: I stand there like... where'd that come from? Quote
Domino Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 My mom and I do better with talking first now, but I swear, her first thought when we talk, is to lecture. Or to bring up something that has nothing to do with our current conversation, just so she can lecture me about that. :laughingsmiley: I stand there like... where'd that come from? Yeah. I think my mom and I understand each other more now that we actually talked...she's not really much of a lecturer. Or much of a talker/yeller in general. The only time she really gets mad is when she doesn't know where I am. Which unfortunately happens more than ideally. :| Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 My mom loves lecturing me. Or lecturing me about something my husband does. (I especially love when me/he/us are already doing what she said, but she tells me anyway, even though she knew that.) But it's okay. We still enjoy spending time together as much as we can. (It's a lot more limited now that I'm married and she's sicker.) Like today, she just picked me from work, we went to the library and had lunch. That's it, but it was really nice. I think we also get along better and appreciate the time together more ever since I moved to Denver in 08. I wasn't around as much, and even when I moved back to town, I never moved back in with them. Quote
Domino Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Well. Considering I still live in my house, spending time with my mother is not something that is a...hot commodity shall we say. I mean, I do enjoy spending time with her, and I probably should spend less time holed up in my room on Neopets doing homework. :laughingsmiley: Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Before I moved out, we spent a ton of time together. Whether we were home or out. But when I was home, I was generally in my room on the computer. But I'd go to the living room with her while she was reading and stuff. But we've always been close, ever since I was little. (Which made it harder when we started arguing a bit.) Quote
livvy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Mhm, the closer you are, the more it hurts when you argue. =\ I'm experiencing that with mum. I mean, we're still close, but we do blow up at each other now and then, and it's very painful. Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Exactly. My mom and I went through it for a couple years, but it seemed we just needed a little distance. She's just a worrier. Quote
livvy Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 My mum's a planner, and I'm a worrier. She makes all these plans and gets really irritated when things don't go exactly as she wants them to. So of course I start stressing out because she's upset, and then I mess more things up because I'm stressing, and... it devolves into an argument, which generally consists of me saying I'm not as perfect as she expects me to be and her not denying it. Fun stuff. I'm sure we'll grow out of it. Quote
Spritzie Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 My mom and I just had different views on how my life should be. I lived at home until I was 23. So she was still trying to control a bit, what I did. My parents went by the whole, you may be over 18, but you live under our roof, thing. But still, I was 23. Quote
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