Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 No I didn't. I generally saw John Mayer concerts. But I saw ads for Fray concerts when I went to Red Rocks. Quote
-Ryan Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Awww. xD Tbh I don't like many songs by John Mayer anymore. -hides- Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I like most of his stuff. But I've been listening to him and seeing him in concert nearly every year since 2003. Quote
-Ryan Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Lol, i've never liked one band for that long. I gotta go, btw. Seeya. xD Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 He's one of the only ones. :P Have a good day at school. Quote
Masaryk Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 My burned hand is super itchy. It's very annoying, since it hurts to scratch it. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Ok. I'm online. Nobody's home. I understand that he's going through a rough time, but he has to understand the he isn't the only dang one. He acts as if everybody is having a good time whie he suffers. Meanwhile I'm the first of my family to need to go on anti-depressants. Ok. Everything started when I had to scoot (use my scooter) all the way to therapy, dispite the fact that ice is still on the ground from the last blizzard. I always have the idea to move forward until I see a bus. But there was no bus at all. So I ended up scooting all the way to the B64 stop, where I did catch the other bus. The only problem is that dad forgot to pay for the therapy, so I can't go in until I do so. I was suppose to meet my god-sister whom had the money. But my grandmother said 71st, I said 73rd, and the office was on 77th. So I spend the next half hour scooting around between the spots looking for her. I found her, and then I went in only to find out that my father paid in advance and I missed my session. He told me nothing about this. So I went home, and my father said to not turn on the laptop, and if it was still on, to turn it off. I was going to do that when I got sucked into a conversation and then 2 hours passed by (can't really blame a guy for that). He realizes that it's still on, and claims that if I don't want to follow the rules, that I can leave. I asked him why it was a federal case if I got sucked into a conversation and nothing happens, but it was ok for him to get sucked into a conversation with my grandmother and forget that me and my brother are still home alone. We can take care of ourselves, but still. He then brings out the tired excuse "I'm the parent, your the child. I can do what I want". To me, once you use that excuse, you lost the arguement since it's unvaild and it's a cheap way out. I said this calmly, and instead he decides to burst and says how he didn't want me scooting or walking towards therapy, even though I would've arrived LATER if I waited for the bus that never came. He accuses me of not even going to therapy, and instead of listening to me he just brings out a message left on the phone and claims that he's right, which pissed me off beyond belief. And you guys can tell when that pisses me off, since it's happened here on TDN. So I explode on him, we are at our necks, and my brother is in the corner begging for us to stop. A whole lot of crap happens, and in the end he asks what happened to his son. I reply asking what happened to him, and he just threatens to punch my mouth out. I try to contact my grandmother, and instead she completely places blame on me even when I didn't start anything. My father then says how I got what I wanted (a transfer) and that I didn't contact the guy about the schools. I tried to contact him, he didn't pick up. Is that my problem? I've told that to him a billion times, but it doesn't seem to get through that thick skull of his. I never wanted to think of suicide. I always felt it was a selfish way out. I said to myself that I would never sink that low. But I'm trapped in a house with someone who wants me gone, someone whom is scared of me, someone whom can't help me, and the only people that do help and listen (you guys) are being taken away from me since I'm this close to losing the laptop. I can't bear it any longer, and I have nowhere that I can go for the time being. I'm completely trapped. Sorry if I sweared or anything in this. I needed to let it out if I did (see why I need swearing freedom on the HAMS site Ryan?). Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I'm sorry :( Can you put anything like lotion on it, to sooth it? Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Burned hands suck. You should be able to put on lotion. If you can't do that, put boxing gloves on so you don't scratch them. Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 :laughingsmiley: Sorry. I just got this image in my head of Meghan running around in boxing gloves. I'm sorry all that happened CAV. :( It's hard for everyone when something happens, like you're family is going through. Some are better at dealing with the stress than others. Some handle it horribly and go completely weird. (Like my sister, when my grandma died. Her way of dealing with the loss, was anger. So she argued with everyone, more than normal.) It's not fair to you, for him to act that way, but the best you can do is try to be as patient as possible. Arguing won't help. Telling him he's wrong won't help, most likely. All I can think of is a calm discussion about it. If it starts to get heated or emotional, stop, wait until things calm down, and try another time. Go into the conversation, telling him you want it to be calm and tell him ahead of time that if it stops being a calm discussion, you'd prefer to continue it another time. Maybe ask your grandma to sit in on it, since she seems to be pretty involved. And possibly your brother as well. I don't know how old he is, but everything, including the arguments are affecting him as well. I'm sure he doesn't want to see you hurting like this. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 It's not fair to you, for him to act that way, but the best you can do is try to be as patient as possible. Arguing won't help. Telling him he's wrong won't help, most likely. I know, but I couldn't sit there and let him accuse me of things. I knew he was pissed. The plan was to just walk away. But I was already in my room when things started, so I had nowhere to go. And he was falsely accusing me. I can't let that go and make him believe he's right. And like I said, it doesn't matter the situation, but by using the "I'm a parent, you the child" excuse, you automatically lose the arguement at hand, since it's been proven several times that it's not vaild, and instead it's a crutch. Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 If it happens again, maybe you could you have tell him you need some time to cool off and tell him you'll come to him. I know. It's like the "Because I said so." But saying it's not valid, whether it is or not, will just upset him more. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 He might question where I'm going, or continue to argue. Next time it happens, I'm getting dressed, and leaving for the night. I'll ride the trains all night. Or at least until I calm down and dad is willing to calm down as well. I know. It's like the "Because I said so." But saying it's not valid, whether it is or not, will just upset him more. I cannot tell a lie. :P And he was constantly force feeding me that excuse. I eventually had to say something. Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 CAV, there's a big difference between telling a lie, and not saying something. It's not even a lie of omission if he didn't ask if it's a valid argument. Sometimes, some things are better left unsaid, true or not, for the sake of not upsetting someone. Quote
Masaryk Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Sorry that you had such a terrible time yesterday, CAV. Unfortunately, parents have some really irrational fights with their kids sometimes. People tend to get upset, hurt, or angry about something, and then they take it out on other people by starting inappropriate fights about nonsense issues. Heck, even I do that sometimes. When my mum flies off the handle, she says horrible, nasty things that simply aren't true. She knows, in her mind, that they aren't true, but she says them anyway. It's like she's saying these things to purposely try to hurt someone else, so that she has someone to share her pain. Arguing with it does no good, since it's an emotional reaction, and you can't reason with emotion. I know it's hard to think this way, but really try not to take it personally. Yes, it was an attack against you, but the root cause is probably not you. Since you don't even know exactly what the root cause is, and there is likely nothing you can do to solve the root cause, it's really best to just try to let it slide, and try to lay low. Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I know what he said isn't true, but even with my huge temper I don't go screaming "I HATE YOU" or anything like that. CAV, there's a big difference between telling a lie, and not saying something. It's not even a lie of omission if he didn't ask if it's a valid argument. Sometimes, some things are better left unsaid, true or not, for the sake of not upsetting someone. There was a silly face for a reason. Quote
Seliphra Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 *hugs* Well, I promise when I have money I will come kidnap you to Canada then! *because I'm evil Mwuhahaha!* ...And I guess Ryan can come too...anyone else feel like being kidnapped? Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I want to go to Canada someday, but for now, I'm sticking to Colorado. :P Quote
CAV of Gang Green Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I've been to Canada. Free health care. It's awesome. Quote
Sofa Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 We have free health care here in the UK too, but I suspect that Canada is generally a more exciting place to visit. My friend did a gap year working on an Alpaca farm in Canada (possibly Ontario but I can't really remember) and it looked awesome from the photos. I've been wanting to go to Quebec ever since I was 12 and there was a picture in our French book of an amazing ice-sculpture contest there...bit weird I know! Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I've been wanting to go to Quebec ever since I was 12 and there was a picture in our French book of an amazing ice-sculpture contest there...bit weird I know! That's not weird at all. I love ice sculptures. I think they have contests here in Colorado. But I really want to go to Alaska during the winter. My dad took a bunch of pictures in AK during winter, and there were ice sculptures everywhere. They advertised businesses, schools, designs. I want to see them myself. Quote
Sofa Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 That sounds brilliant! I saw someone doing a small ice sculpture once, it was meant to be a swan but he accidentally lopped off the neck so he turned it into a horses head instead, was still pretty impressive. I like the sand sculptures too. It's amazing what people can do :) Quote
Spritzie Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 It really is awesome. I'll have to hunt down some of the ice sculpture pictures my dad took and post them here. Quote
Sofa Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 That sounds good :) I'll look forward to seeing them! Quote
:)Doc Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 I'm so happy right now! The water pipe at our school burst, so we got out early today! That's THREE days off so far :excited: What's happening with y'all? Quote
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