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Today I was awaken by my father suddenly, he seemed panicked and breifly mentioned something about my cat. A mere 15 minutes later, my dear sweet kitty, Frosty, passed away. He was my very first pet, and sadly he was only 5 years old. I adoooored him! He was cute and energetic and playful. He was there to help me with a lot of other losses in my life, so today, while grieving for him I felt completely lost. I kept expecting him to come crawling out of his favorite closet and lay by me. Just a few days earlier I had to rush him to the vet because he had a seizure and we were told that he had a heart murmur, which we never noticed before. I watched him like a hawk for the next few days, but what we really needed was money to take him to get some tests and medicine to help him feel better because he acted weird after the seizure. He would no longer jump up on the bed with me or play or run around or anything, but all I could do until we got money was hope that he'd stay well until he got better. Some people who've never had pets before say stuff like "oh, its just a cat. Don't spend so much money on it. You can get another one later" but you can't. There will Never be another Frosty. He was there for me and my family when my mom died, when my great uncle died, and there when my great grandma died. He had this adorable meow, and though he liked to bite playfully, he was patient and only ever hissed twice since I've had him and that's because my aunt and uncle were mean to him and a friend's little brother was being too rough. He nudged his head under my chin whenever I was sad or crying, he hated car rides, and hated his cat carrier even more. He was my little baby and I can never replace him. So I refuse to say "goodbye" and instead I shall simply always keep him with me. I love you kitty!

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I am so sorry. It's always rough, especially when it's your first. We would bury our pets in the yard and put their collar around a tree nearby. I'd keep something that reminds you of him.

 

I can tell you it gets easier over time, but you'll always remember him (as you should). You can't replace him, don't let anyone tell you differently.

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I think what they mean by that is that the humans need to come first. It sounds awfull but making sure you guys can pay your bills and all that has to happen before the cat can get tests done.

Don't feel bad, though. Friend of mine took her goldfish to the vet on a weekly basis. The bugger was sick so often I was like "Oh my sweet bananas xD just flush the darn thing!" - She didn't like me too well for a while after that. xD'

I'm sorry your cat passed away, though. Are y'all having a burial for Frosty?

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Our dog also had a heart murmur and this summer he "randomly" passed away, we assume from heart failure.

 

None the less, he basically died in my arms in our kitchen, immediately after I came home from work. The vet revived him and he suffered two seizures before finally passing away (the vet wanted to revive him again but it clearly wasn't what was best for him)

 

It's certainly not easy. It is traumatic, but you will get through it. Frosty would want you to, after all!

 

It's great that you want to have Frosty's memory live on with you! :)

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I am so sorry for your loss... :( I know exactly how you feel. My friend had 2 cats, and the both of them had a litter on my 18th birthday. So as a present, he told me I could come over and pick one. I picked my little man, he was my first cat ever. We had cats when I was a kid but you know how a cat picks you, and not the other way around. So they weren't mine.

When he was a kitten he would crawl into my bed, under the blanket and in my shirt because he only wanted to be with me. He would always follow me around the house and rub against my leg, he would jump on my shoulder and lay in my neck like a scarf while I walked around, and he would sit in the window when I got home. I traveled a lot by train and he hated his carrier so I had a jacket with a cord around my waist, I would pull it really tight and stick him in there. He'd sleep the whole way, or sometimes he would wake up and stick his head out of my jacket all of a sudden. You should have seen the faces of all the other people in the train... XD

 

I have been alone most of my life, being in a boarding school from my 10th through my 18th, and living on my own after that. He was the only one that was always there for me and that comforted me when I felt sad.

 

Then, a couple years ago, I got married. My dad took care of him when I went on my honeymoon. I was still living in Holland back then and we went to the USA. One night I just totally freaked out out of nowhere and had to call my dad to ask how my kitty was doing. He told me he was fine and that I shouldn't worry. When I came home my dad sat me down and said that Lestat had not wanted to eat or drink when I left, and the vet didn't find anything wrong with him. A couple days later when he still wasn't eating or drinking, my dad took him to the vet again, and they found that he had a bladder infection and it had spread to all his other organs. It was too far to help him anymore so they had to have him put down. About half an hour before I had called him (so around the moment when I started freaking out) he had passed away.

 

So, I guess what I am trying to say, is that a cat can be more than just a friend sometimes. And although I understand that people really do come first, it is kind of harsh to say this to a person that is grieving over their pet. Some people, like me, and from what I read, like you, have a bond with their pet that is so much more than just a friendship.

 

I would love to say that the pain goes away quickly. But really it doesn't. It'll be 3 years this summer, and sometimes I still break down and cry over my little man. But it does get easier over time. Take your time to grieve. There is no shame in crying over a loved one. And remember he is a little angel on your shoulder now, watching over you and comforting you even now. As long as he is in your heart he is still with you.

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Thank you for all your kind words. Reading your story made me cry all over again, watery black. As for a funeral, I thought about it, but we decided to get him cremated so that I could keep him around.

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I'm sorry. I had a cat named Amber who passed away and I never forgot her even though I let her into my life in 3rd grade and I'm a senior in high school now. I don't really tell the story behind her anymore because I cry a little

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I am sorry to hear you had to go through that. And yeah, that's pretty young for a cat. But this way you really got the drift of what it means to have a pet and really love him/her. And I get the feeling you'd be the type to get another, and I think you would have such a large heart to be able to keep your old kitty and your new pet all in at once. :) So good luck moving on, and good luck with your future endeavors.

And the crying is normal, dear ;P

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i am really sorry for your loss *hug* pets have always been part of the family to me, my kitty is my absolute darling, and i spoil her rotten. she is getting old so i may also have to confront that reality in the next few years.. when i lost my first pet (a mouse) i was so upset i had to take a day off school and everyone was like "get over it" but my family understood. its always hard, but its especially hard when its your first pet, and also when it was so unexpected like that. *extra hug*

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*hugs* Losing a best friend is hard :(

Just before Thanksgiving we put our 10 year old Jack Russell to sleep. Her health deteriorated so fast and we felt that it would be better for her to go to sleep peacefully at home, instead of having her poked and prodded by a vet. We just didn't want to put her through that. We made a little casket for her and buried her in our yard. We miss her and everyday she's still with us.

 

It's normal to feel lost, and eventually that feeling goes away.

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Yet again, thanks guys. *hugs all around*. Oddly enough, I find it comforting that I still have my lovely neopets to keep me company. :) Maybe I'll get a xweetok plushie to have around until I decide to get a new cat.

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I am very sorry for your loss pets become so much more thanjust pets they become family apart of your everyday routine and its just like when someone close to you dies there is a void left where they used to be

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i'm very sorry. about a year ago my cat had kittens. we kept one and gave the rest away. she was all white with blue eyes and the cutest thing ever. she was playing outside with her mom one day on our driveway. we don't have a gate or anything and a neighbor pulled in to make a u-turn and ran her over. the person didn't even have the decency to ring the doorbell and let us know. the only reason we knew what happened was because another neighbor what happened and let us know. i know i hadn't had her for that long but it was still heartbreaking.

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aww that is sad,i love cats...i'll tell you about my cat when i get her...well i have 2 cats,but their my sisters,one black,female,one orange,male.they might breed...idk,but i might get kittens soon,but i love cats soooo much.*hugs* i hope you feel better...

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