Naamah D. Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 I want to ask if guys like heavier girls. I'm a size 18/20 and am going out of my way to make guys happy. I'm not eating(well I am just one meal a day), working out for 20 minutes, doing extra special things(wearing only women's clothes, and other things). I'm happy with my size and don't want to lose weight. So my question is, do guys like girls my size. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spastastic Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 Some do. No matter what the Western media appears to indicate, people have all sorts of different taste when it comes to sexual attraction; I, for example, tend to like men with interesting faces more than those that are classically handsome. If you're happy with your weight and you're not unhealthy, don't try to change yourself just for the sake of men. And ESPECIALLY don't turn to anorexia. Besides being incredibly unhealthy, it isn't an effective way to lose weight and keep it off. It's a slippery slope from skipping meals to barely eating altogether. I say this as someone who has seen her best friend torn apart by eating disorders for years, and it was so painful to watch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luciana Posted July 19, 2011 Share Posted July 19, 2011 Stop it. Stop "going out of your way to make guys happy". That's not even going to work. You can't assume half the population likes the same thing. Different people have different tastes in partners. If you are happy with your size stay that size. There is no point in being in a relationship if you are not happy with yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
behati Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 ^what that person said. Why would you go out of your way to make a guy happy? As long as you're healthy and happy with yourself, men will want you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hrtbrk Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Eating one meal a day is not healthy at all. You will become a slug with no energy, and want to sleep, effectively gaining MORE weight. Especially if you're randomly exercising, you're not going to see the results you're after. Men like women who are secure with who they are and confident. Doing all this other stuff to try to change isn't attractive - in my opinion anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noog Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 It really just depends on the guy. Eating one meal a day is not healthy at all. You will become a slug with no energy, and want to sleep, effectively gaining MORE weight. Especially if you're randomly exercising, you're not going to see the results you're after. ^this. Eating once a day actually makes you gain weight because your body thinks that it's in a desperate environment where it needs to store all extra energy possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jcaitou Posted July 22, 2011 Share Posted July 22, 2011 Hey, I know exactly where you're coming from. I know I'm not extremely big, but I consider myself a little above average, and it always makes me feel a little inferior to all those other perfect girls out there. I've been there, done that, and even though I'm still weight conscious, I still keep a healthy lifestyle. The best advice I can offer you is just to be yourself... I've moaned and cried over jerks that don't like me because I'm fatter than other girls out there, but at the end of the day, I want to make my impression by defining 'me' in a special way, and letting people know that I'm perfectly comfortable where I am. Figure out what makes you smile, and do that more often :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naamah D. Posted July 23, 2011 Author Share Posted July 23, 2011 Hey, I know exactly where you're coming from. I know I'm not extremely big, but I consider myself a little above average, and it always makes me feel a little inferior to all those other perfect girls out there. I've been there, done that, and even though I'm still weight conscious, I still keep a healthy lifestyle. The best advice I can offer you is just to be yourself... I've moaned and cried over jerks that don't like me because I'm fatter than other girls out there, but at the end of the day, I want to make my impression by defining 'me' in a special way, and letting people know that I'm perfectly comfortable where I am. Figure out what makes you smile, and do that more often :) All because I'm bigger doesn't mean I'm unhealthy or don't have a healthy lifestyle. I eat very healthy, I work out on a treadmill for 20 minutes a day(and soon to be twice a day), and I'm happy with myself physically and mentally. I'll find somebody....I'm still young(18 years old)so I should worry about me instead. Thank you. I don't really feel inferior to thinner girls at all by the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlet Fever Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Some guys really do. I wouldn't worry about it too much; why bother trying to make them happy before they've earned it, eh? Have them come to you. A lot of of what guys dig is confidence....Don't have much confidence? That's ok...fake it...it works and eventually you start believing it yourself (I speak from experience..Leaving high school I was a size 14/16 and I was miserable and in a cruddy, destructive relationship[i was actually engaged to the moron because I didn't think I could do any better], with very poor eating [non-eating as it were] habits...until I realized I deserved better; got into better shape, dropped the loser so hard he ran crying to his mom the next state over, and just started doing better for ME). One point I need to make very clear: Do NOT starve yourself. About how many calories do you think you're getting? You said one meal a day; so I'm guessing it's a significant amount below where it needs to be. For "not wanting to lose weight", that's a very silly thing to do, hun. When you deprive your body that much, it tends to go into starvation mode and all the more likely to cling to the things you do eat as storage. It also screws with your metabolism BAD (I'm still dealing with this...I map out my food plan so I make sure I'm eating enough. Because I never feel hungry anymore, I can't really trust myself to eat enough based on feeling). The most important advice I can give is just try to do good by you, doll. You'll be happier for it. I hope I've said something useful for you in all this. Wish you well. ^_^ Extra note: And as a female with...well...a "wide variety of interests", I much prefer women with something to them than the scary, stick-thin creatures. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Masaryk Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 You don't want to be with a guy that is only interested in your body. Finding a boyfriend that shares the same interests as you and appreciates your personality will lead to a much better and longer-lasting relationship. The guy that likes you for your body would be your boyfriend for a couple of weeks (or months, maybe), but the guy that likes you because you have things you can talk about and things you can do together will be your will be your boyfriend for many months or years. And as Scarlet said, guys will be more attracted to your self-confidence than your body. Be happy with yourself. It will impress people. Being overweight isn't inherently unattractive. If you eat healthy (between 1500-2000 calories, lots of fruits and veggies, limited salt and sweets), exercise, dress in a way that you feel good about, observe personal hygiene, and carry yourself with confidence, people will find you attractive, even if you are overweight. But if you are unhealthy, lazy, dress like a slob, and feel sorry for yourself all the time, people will be less interested. There are a lot of attractive overweight people in the world. And don't assume that everyone is attracted to the same physical qualities in a person. While some people look at overall body shape, others are more attracted to specific qualities, such as hair, hands, eyes, face shape, etc. Really skinny girls also tend to lack the features that make women, well... women. Curves are nice to have. The point is, don't try to make yourself someone you are not for the sake of attracting attention. The attention you attract would be all the wrong kind, and you will feel worse about yourself in the end. Just be yourself, and be happy with yourself, and you will find a guy that appreciates you for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naamah D. Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 You don't want to be with a guy that is only interested in your body. Finding a boyfriend that shares the same interests as you and appreciates your personality will lead to a much better and longer-lasting relationship. The guy that likes you for your body would be your boyfriend for a couple of weeks (or months, maybe), but the guy that likes you because you have things you can talk about and things you can do together will be your will be your boyfriend for many months or years. And as Scarlet said, guys will be more attracted to your self-confidence than your body. Be happy with yourself. It will impress people. Being overweight isn't inherently unattractive. If you eat healthy (between 1500-2000 calories, lots of fruits and veggies, limited salt and sweets), exercise, dress in a way that you feel good about, observe personal hygiene, and carry yourself with confidence, people will find you attractive, even if you are overweight. But if you are unhealthy, lazy, dress like a slob, and feel sorry for yourself all the time, people will be less interested. There are a lot of attractive overweight people in the world. And don't assume that everyone is attracted to the same physical qualities in a person. While some people look at overall body shape, others are more attracted to specific qualities, such as hair, hands, eyes, face shape, etc. Really skinny girls also tend to lack the features that make women, well... women. Curves are nice to have. The point is, don't try to make yourself someone you are not for the sake of attracting attention. The attention you attract would be all the wrong kind, and you will feel worse about yourself in the end. Just be yourself, and be happy with yourself, and you will find a guy that appreciates you for you. My self confidence is normally very high but sometimes I get a little down on myself. And look at women like Queen Latifah, she's larger and she's very pretty. So thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Ryan Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Too lazy to read threough all the big post responses. @_@ Anyway, don't go out of your way to make guys happy. Everyone has different tastes as I saw while skimming through the first few posts. And tit's flat out unhealthy to only eat once a day. PLus i'm pretty sure that makes you gain weight. Don't remember why. Just focus on being healthy and making yourself happy. Everyone else's opinions come afterwards. Edit : Saw Masaryk post this while skimming again. So true. You don't want to be with a guy that is only interested in your body. Finding a boyfriend that shares the same interests as you and appreciates your personality will lead to a much better and longer-lasting relationship. The guy that likes you for your body would be your boyfriend for a couple of weeks (or months, maybe), but the guy that likes you because you have things you can talk about and things you can do together will be your will be your boyfriend for many months or years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Squidmama Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 D:! You loose more weight by eating, you know, your body goes into stravation mode and fat storing mode when you eat like that. The best way to loose weight is to reset your matabilism by cutting out fast sugars for a while and slowly reintroducing them into your diet. Staying away from fast sugars during the day and eat plenty of fiber, but blablabla who cares what guys like? If people don't like you, forget them. Don't give into the peer pressure of the media. Live a happy life and drink milkshakes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alynniae Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 on tv and stuff you only see models, but most of the people aren't as thin as they are, and there are so many people with a BF of GF. and i think that i wouldn't like it when i would go on a date with somebody (in a few years, my mom won't let me go out with my age :sad02:) and i was a boy and i see that the girl only eats a carrot, drinks water and that kind of stuff. djeez, why does weight matter? i'm not falling for the most handsome boys on school, but the ones i'm falling for are handsome enough for me, and the most important, i know them for years, trust them and find them really nice, then i fall for them :wub_anim:. conclusion: be happy with who you are! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angeló Posted July 29, 2011 Share Posted July 29, 2011 I don't care for a girl's dress size as much as her brain size ... but to be honest , I dated a girl who was heavy and all she did was complain about how she's "no good for me" .. she thought I'm only dating her out of pity ... and she single-handedly destroyed the relationship ... there was nothing i said or did that made her feel better ... stupid really , because I did like her ... but I couldn't live with the feeling of guilt over nothing ... and no i never commented on her weight or looked at other girls to make her feel that way .. it was all in her head ... <_< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MELioristic Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Yes can we please get some more male opinions on this? Is body type really that big of a factor? I happen to be pretty skinny because Ive been a vegan for many years, and I get a lot of comments from guys that are not always positive. A lot of them seem to prefer girls wolf down huge meals like slobs, rather than the ones in movies who won't eat in public Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Ryan Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Yes alot of guys look for... Well looks... But as someone said, those are the ones who you wont get a long-lasting relationship from. The ones who don't really give a squirrel are the ones you should be looking for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twilightprincess922 Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 As long as it's not harming your health, you are beautiful the way you are. Some men will see it, and some will not. It just depends. For example, I was built a little underweight, and I cannot help it. I eat three meals a day, sometimes more, and I cannot gain weight like I want to. I asked a boy if he had any interest in me the other day, and he said he didn't because my weight was 'sickening'. It really depends on the guy. Someone worth any time will love you the way you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowwhite Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 Here's all you need to know: Head up, shoulders back, look like you know where you're going, and always have a big smile when someone says hello. Wear what you like, what suits you. A man can't make you happy, you're the only one who can do that for yourself. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebeka Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 If someone likes you, it doesn't matter how big or skinny you are! Love is blind :) Be happy with yourself. And as Zarii said - about hearing a guy say how he likes skiny girls with bones sticking out everywhere - I agree I've never heard this. Guys like something to grab my mother always said :) And don't change yourself for someone else, if you like who you are now. Believe me, guys don't notice anyway (;) Of course there are exceptions) EDIT: Okay, I lied. I remembered I read a story yesterday about a guy who wanted for his girlfriend to have 33 kilos (not sure how much is that in pounds) and then he killed her. But he's a psychopath .. This topic has been edited by a member of staff (Spritzie) because of a violation of the forum rules. Please do not bump topics over 21 days old. Please check your user inbox to see if you have been contacted regarding this incident, then review our rules. Per the reason above, this topic has been LOCKED. Please contact Spritzie if you have any questions regarding this action. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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