Singledwish123 Posted April 17, 2023 Share Posted April 17, 2023 Deep in the dating app trenches right now and would love any words and/or wisdoms. What's the best piece of advice on love and dating someone's given you? LekkerLekker89 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bLitz1609 Posted April 17, 2023 Share Posted April 17, 2023 Honestly? I've been through quite a bit of failed relationships and has beens. What I found out after I met my now-wife is that it's better to just be yourself. Enjoy the other person's company and find someone you enjoy talking to that brings out the sort of you that you always wanted to be, even if it's not the who you are right now. I believe that a lot of relationships fail because at the fundamental level, they can't see each other as friends. And having a partner is supposed to be rooted in something similar, for me anyway. There's also a clear line between someone who accidentally hurts you and someone who abuses you. Sometimes it can be hard to differentiate the two. The key thing is to care for yourself more. The more you love yourself the more you can love your partner. Last thing I would say though, is just take your time. Enjoy whatever it is you have right now and move forward with a comfortable pace. It's not a race. Hope that gives you something useful. Cheers and goodluck! caeklin, Singledwish123 and bonnie_morrison 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Singledwish123 Posted April 19, 2023 Author Share Posted April 19, 2023 On 4/17/2023 at 2:37 AM, bLitz1609 said: Honestly? I've been through quite a bit of failed relationships and has beens. What I found out after I met my now-wife is that it's better to just be yourself. Enjoy the other person's company and find someone you enjoy talking to that brings out the sort of you that you always wanted to be, even if it's not the who you are right now. I believe that a lot of relationships fail because at the fundamental level, they can't see each other as friends. And having a partner is supposed to be rooted in something similar, for me anyway. There's also a clear line between someone who accidentally hurts you and someone who abuses you. Sometimes it can be hard to differentiate the two. The key thing is to care for yourself more. The more you love yourself the more you can love your partner. Last thing I would say though, is just take your time. Enjoy whatever it is you have right now and move forward with a comfortable pace. It's not a race. Hope that gives you something useful. Cheers and goodluck! This is so sweet!! Aw, I love this, thanks for sharing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
violetcatastrophe Posted April 19, 2023 Share Posted April 19, 2023 The one about finding love when you're not actively looking for it. If you are in the mindset of "wanting a relationship" then you are more likely to ignore red flags and incompatibilities in the name of "making it work." I met my fiance on tinder, both of us were just looking to rebound after bad relationships and it turns out he's my soul mate. I was able to see him for who he really was (my perfect partner) because I was actually looking at him instead of constantly watching "the relationship." I hope that makes sense and helps! Previously I had only dated men I had been friends with before, but I wasn't getting the princess treatment I wanted (because I was "one of the guys") so finding someone I hadn't met was actually better for me. edit to add: "If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?" - RuPaul Charles LekkerLekker89 and Singledwish123 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LekkerLekker89 Posted April 19, 2023 Share Posted April 19, 2023 5 hours ago, violetcatastrophe said: The one about finding love when you're not actively looking for it. If you are in the mindset of "wanting a relationship" then you are more likely to ignore red flags and incompatibilities in the name of "making it work." I met my fiance on tinder, both of us were just looking to rebound after bad relationships and it turns out he's my soul mate. I was able to see him for who he really was (my perfect partner) because I was actually looking at him instead of constantly watching "the relationship." I hope that makes sense and helps! Previously I had only dated men I had been friends with before, but I wasn't getting the princess treatment I wanted (because I was "one of the guys") so finding someone I hadn't met was actually better for me. edit to add: "If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?" - RuPaul Charles I could not have summed up my OWN experience better than this. We've been married two months shy of five years. Singledwish123 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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