So...inlaws.?!

[.Brianna.]

I'm a newlywed and life is fantastic - except for my husband's mother and her occassional meddling. Don't get me wrong, I love her, but she is a widow and at times she can be a little clingy. Recently she's been rather intrusive about some matters that don't require her input (i.e. us buying a house). I want to say something to my husband, but I don't want to hurt his feelings.

 

Any advice?

[iheartsaku]

I would talk to him about it. You two are a team and these sort of things need to be discussed. Obviously don't be aggressive about it but do express how you are feeling. It's usually not good to bottle feelings up anyways....plus he is your husband. You are supposed to be able to be open around him. I know it revolves his mom, which can always be a touchy matter, but don't feel that way. You should express your feelings just don't be harsh about it. :)

[Mouseykins]

I occasionally have slight run-ins with my mother-in-law. They mostly involve our daughter and her eating habits. Toddlers are picky and they often don't cooperate at meal times. Mostly I just stand my ground with these issues and be nice about it. They're always just small issues that I grump about for a bit and then just shrug off.

 

Sometimes when she intrudes on more serious matters I will bring up my feelings to my husband so that he knows where I stand on it. I know it can be hard to bring up things involving your husband's parents but I believe it's best for everyone to be honest with each other. With her meddling in things, you're likely feeling down and bothered by it and your husband should know how you're feeling. If you're having problems bringing up your feelings you could always start with "I know she means well and I love her, but it bothers me when she does this...." Just try and stay calm and let your husband know how you're feeling.

 

At times you just need to put your foot down and say enough is enough.