Would I be too skinny?

[spookydana]

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Dont be skinny to attract mates, be at a weight that makes you happy, confident, and comfortable.

People pick up on those vibes and are attracted to them.

You shouldn't want someone who is so vain that they are attracted to you for your size. In the long run, that relationship could be fragile and the initial attraction could be lost so easily.

 

Numbers and sizes dont matter. As long as your happy.

 

When I first got with my fiance (he's a big guy), he was afraid I'd be disgusted by his belly, so he never got naked with me. It made me sad that he had such discomfort with someone he loved. Now he sees that I love him for HIM and our bodies are just the vessel that holds our souls. I dont care how big or small we get, as long as we do it together.

 

Good luck on your endeavor.

[TheNeonHyena]

 

Playing Neopets is hard right now. I told a family member about the Vandagyre being released and they said, "You're still playing on that website?" and then started asking me how many times I log in a day and how much I play every day and stuff like that. I feel like I should quit Neopets because other people judge me.

 

I care way too much what other people think, but treating myself is a good thing.

 

Oh honey, don't let anyone make you feel bad about playing on Neopets. You're not harming anyone else, you're not gambling away your life's savings, you're not out shooting poison into your veins or doing anything illegal, immoral or unethical. When people start grilling you about it just get a little sassy and say it's your way of unwinding then ask them about their hobbies. When you get right down to it, it doesn't matter if your way of passing time is goofing around on an online game, reading, cooking, gardening, knitting or whatever else you can come up with, so long as you enjoy it anyone else that wants to say something is just opening themselves up for criticism. You have the right to do whatever the heck you please with your free time.

 

Sorry, little off topic but judging others based on their harmless activities ticks me off to no end. It's called self esteem because in the end the only opinion that matters is the one you form. Don't let other people wreck how you feel about yourself!

 

Edit: Guess it wasn't so off topic when I put in the self esteem bit. Remember, only you have the power to prevent forest fires...err I mean crippling self doubt. If you need affirmation, just make a huge list of really awful things you could be doing with your time and ask if they'd rather you be doing one of those.

[Naamah D.]

:(

Dont be skinny to attract mates, be at a weight that makes you happy, confident, and comfortable.

People pick up on those vibes and are attracted to them.

You shouldn't want someone who is so vain that they are attracted to you for your size. In the long run, that relationship could be fragile and the initial attraction could be lost so easily.

 

Numbers and sizes dont matter. As long as your happy.

 

When I first got with my fiance (he's a big guy), he was afraid I'd be disgusted by his belly, so he never got naked with me. It made me sad that he had such discomfort with someone he loved. Now he sees that I love him for HIM and our bodies are just the vessel that holds our souls. I dont care how big or small we get, as long as we do it together.

 

Good luck on your endeavor.

 

I can't stand how shallow people have become. I like being plus-sized. I don't my exact size, but I take a 3x in shirt most of the time and I think a size 20 in jeans. I'm a "pear" shape according to this body type calculator online. I brought this up to somebody one time who I'm very close to. She's also a pear shape, but she's taller than me. When I told her that I was a pear shape she said "I'm a pear shape" and I told her again that I was and she said "I don't have a belly though". It didn't hurt my feelings because I'm really close to her, but she doesn't know a lot about body types. Usually tall women with really tiny waist and big hips (she has both) is an hourglass. Fashion has always been a huge outlet for me that makes me happy because I can be creative and express myself. One day I'll wear a plaid dress and the next day skinny jeans and a tunic.

 

This woman could be a pear shape. I don't know her measurements, but different body types are going to look different on different people. I know my measurements which are 44"-41"-52" (my waist is technically the smallest part of my body).

 

I'm trying really hard and I need 1500 calories a day and got told "That's not a lot of calories compared to how you ate in the past" by another person that I'm close to.Now that hurt my feelings. I did not need for the past to be thrown up in my face.

 

Sorry for the rant.

[SillySilenia]

 

I can't stand how shallow people have become. I like being plus-sized. I don't my exact size, but I take a 3x in shirt most of the time and I think a size 20 in jeans. I'm a "pear" shape according to this body type calculator online. I brought this up to somebody one time who I'm very close to. She's also a pear shape, but she's taller than me. When I told her that I was a pear shape she said "I'm a pear shape" and I told her again that I was and she said "I don't have a belly though". It didn't hurt my feelings because I'm really close to her, but she doesn't know a lot about body types. Usually tall women with really tiny waist and big hips (she has both) is an hourglass. Fashion has always been a huge outlet for me that makes me happy because I can be creative and express myself. One day I'll wear a plaid dress and the next day skinny jeans and a tunic.

 

This woman could be a pear shape. I don't know her measurements, but different body types are going to look different on different people. I know my measurements which are 44"-41"-52" (my waist is technically the smallest part of my body).

 

I'm trying really hard and I need 1500 calories a day and got told "That's not a lot of calories compared to how you ate in the past" by another person that I'm close to.Now that hurt my feelings. I did not need for the past to be thrown up in my face.

 

Sorry for the rant.

Sorry to hear people are giving you such a hard time. -virtual hug-

I suppose they don't necessarily mean it that way, but they're being really, really rude. And thoughtless, which is worse--if it just was a remark intended to be constructive but somewhat painful, it's much easier not to get upset over it. (Say, if someone said in response to the 1500 calories-thing, "Are you sure that's enough for you? Different people have different metabolisms and different intake needs and you've always been a bit of a big eater", then it may have hurt as well, but at least they'd be trying to be helpful. On that note, do keep in mind that different people need different amounts of calories. I can barely remain at a stable weight with 2000-2500. Just be careful and if your weight drops too fast, eat a little bit more. That, and it's not just calories that matter but the type of food as well. You're less likely to gain weight from, say, 2300 calories of mostly vegetables and fruit, than of 2000 calories of mostly fats and oils and (refined) sugar.)

[tk421beth]

It sounds like you are doing well, exercising and tracking what you eat. You are on the right track!

 

I'm 46 and have been over 200 since my mid-20's. I don't really like the way I look, but I exercise (mostly walking) and I feel good when I'm out walking.

 

It snows here too, and I have been thinking about joining a gym, just so I can walk indoors and not worry about falling on some ice-which I've done before!

 

When I looked at your picture...I wish I looked like you! I'm about 270 pounds (about 8 mos ago I was 230)...after my Father passed away, my weight climbed. I'm self-medicating with food (I don't smoke, do drugs, and only drink at weddings, New Years, etc-only a few times a year)...and I need to STOP eating so un-healthy with every meal. I feel horrible physically and mentally...but I am working on these issues currently. I realize that if I stayed exercising, I wouldn't have gained this much weight. I'm an idiot...

 

Okay, enough about me...YOU CAN DO IT! I know you can! Don't let anyone tell you different. KEEP IT UP, GIRL!

 

Also, I'm an old fart and play Neopets. My family and friends think I'm crazy. But I have so much fun here! Also I don't eat when I play! A definite plus!

 

Please keep us updated on your journey! ♥

[Lia Seeya]

Just coming in to echo what everyone has said about (1) getting healthy for yourself and not for anyone else; (2) consulting with your doctor regarding a healthy weight range as well as a healthy rate of weight loss; (3) eating healthy is very important; and (4) you are a really neat person. :D

 

I also want to add that the number on the scale is not the definitive measurement of your health. If you can fit into your clothes better, if you can run more than you did before, then that's a mark of progress. It's not all about the pounds (or the kilos if you're metrically-minded).

 

I haven't conversed with you very much, but I think you're a wonderful and friendly person. I wish you all the best with getting healthy! <3 (And you ever want to talk about health, weight loss, etc, just send me a message. It's something I'm always working on for myself, because I want to get healthy.)

[teeniem55]

I just saw this post.  I hope all things are going well on your journey.  I just wanted to say, lose weight for you, no one else.  If you're comfortable at a certain weight, then you're confident.  It doesn't matter what you weigh if your insides don't match your outside.  Confidence and loving your self go a long way in attracting people in your life.  Love you, love your body, love the skin you're in. 

[Populifolia0Design]

Do it for yourself, to be healthy and feel better in your own skin.

 

I recommend eating healthy, grab healthy recipes with lots of vegetables and put them to practice, then I recommend a session of a sport of your choice at least once per week (one that will make every part of your body work). Make it fun and about learning new cuisine. Eat as much as you want as long as it is healthy food.

 

I personally love judo, swimming, yoga and running.^^

 

Good luck! ;)

 

P.S. A toned body that looks healthy, worked out and a bit curvy is prettier than skinny.

[patrickbailey]

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