Naamah D. Posted June 20, 2014 Share Posted June 20, 2014 The title says it all. I'm actually really scared. My entire family isn't doing great. My mom is depressed, my brother is supposed to be scooping cat litter and my mom said that if the cat litter doesn't get scooped she'll get rid of the cats. It's bad enough that I don't think my family that live where I'm moving will like our cats. My cats are my best friends and when my cats are sleeping or aren't around me I have to find a virtual pet on a video game to play with. I don't have any friends now that I've graduated high school. My cats and my virtual pets on Neopets and in video games are my friends. I'm worried that if the cats go and if Neopets shuts down I will never be able to have a pet of any sort again. I can't drive due to a disability that I have and am very worried that I'll end up in a group home. Sorry to sound whiny, I just really need a real life pet or for Neopets to keep going. If I ever can live on my own I really want a small dog to take care of because I can't have children, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minniemeggie Posted June 21, 2014 Share Posted June 21, 2014 The title says it all. I'm actually really scared. My entire family isn't doing great. My mom is depressed, my brother is supposed to be scooping cat litter and my mom said that if the cat litter doesn't get scooped she'll get rid of the cats. It's bad enough that I don't think my family that live where I'm moving will like our cats. My cats are my best friends and when my cats are sleeping or aren't around me I have to find a virtual pet on a video game to play with. I don't have any friends now that I've graduated high school. My cats and my virtual pets on Neopets and in video games are my friends. I'm worried that if the cats go and if Neopets shuts down I will never be able to have a pet of any sort again. I can't drive due to a disability that I have and am very worried that I'll end up in a group home. Sorry to sound whiny, I just really need a real life pet or for Neopets to keep going. If I ever can live on my own I really want a small dog to take care of because I can't have children, Moving can be extremely stressful, especially when moving in with another already established household. The best advice I can give you is to make sure you are upfront and honest with the family about the cats and exactly how important they are to you. Also beat your brother with a ruler and make him clean up the litter! Your babies are at stake! I don't think neopets are going anywhere, at least not for awhile. If you can't keep your cats perhaps you can get a less intrusive pet like a turtle or something small that doesn't venture around much. I'm sorry your mom is so depressed, I am sure it just makes your whole situation seem all the more worse. You may not have a friend you can go hang out with on the weekends in person, but I know you have all of us here at TDN. I was feeling very depressed about my life yesterday and after I posted my rant and heard some kind words and strong advice, I felt so much better. Its like a little family here and I hope you can see us as your friends that you can talk to. I know your worried about living in a group home and I have heard some bad stories. However in college I lived across the street from a group home of disabled young women and they always had a lot of fun, they would invite me over for dinner and we would throw fancy-pants dinner parties. If you do wind up in a group home just know that you may wind up having the time of your life as well as some great friends. Do keep us updated and I hope you feel better <3 nightfall8705 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightfall8705 Posted June 21, 2014 Share Posted June 21, 2014 Oh hun, I've been in your shoes before, and it totally sucked at the time, but things DO get better. I've been in a group home before when I was younger, I know it's not really the same, but I hated it there so much. When my mom died, I had to leave everything and everyone behind with my younger brother and one suitcase. I had to start over in another state and I didn't have hardly any family by my side, but I made it through and I'm stronger because of it. I've raised my brother his whole life and he's lived with me (I'm his legal guardian, and have been since before he was 10, he will be 18 this year) and it's tough, I know. I've got a bad back and severe clinical depression and believe me I understand! My kitty cat is my best friend too, and I'd go completely bonkers without her. Pets aren't allowed where I live and they were cruel enough to take a cat from me years ago without even getting the chance to say goodbye, so I have to be overly careful about the cats. My brother has a cat here also (who also recently had 8 kittens!!) and he doesn't like to take his turn cleaning the litter box, which causes a bunch of arguments between us. All I can say is, I feel a lot like you do in many aspects, but I keep my chin up. I go on Neo to escape for a while, and because of that, I eventually stopped lurking here and started being active. I've made a lot of friends here, and it's true, we sort of ARE like a family. You (and I both!) really need to talk with our doctors. Things like anxiety/stress/depression can actually be treated with an animal companion. If you have a doctor's medical note, then you can keep your cats wherever you go and nobody can do a thing about it. If I could afford it, I would get Sydney to be trained as an emotional support pet. Nobody could legally separate us that way, even in places that don't allow pets. It would be nice to be able to keep my bestie and not fear her getting taken away or us getting kicked out, you know? The reason I say all of this is because I can really identify with your post in many ways. I'm a stronger, more positive person because of my experiences, and I think it's crucial that a person can identify with another. Meg is right, you know, you have us here to talk to. I'll tell you what I told her. Take things one day at a time. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed. It doesn't help anything to be so worried. The best thing you and your family can do is communicate and try to work through disagreements together. A family is like a team, everybody needs to do their part. Tell your brother that he has responsibilities and he needs to step up and get them done, because nobody will pick up the slack! Tell your mom to speak with her doctor. There are treatments that do help depressed peoples. Talking about things as an outlet is a good step in treatment. As far as your kitty cats go, I'm sure they sense things are tense too. They'll be by your side to make you feel better. Let your kitties comfort you. Be positive and keep strong, if not for yourself, but for them too! I send you love and I hope that you and your family's situation gets better. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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