Alynniae Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 So, I don't know if I should share this but I guess i'll just do it... So, my greatgrandmother just died and I don't really know how to deal with the situation. I've never been good at crying about things in real life... I always cry because of movies, but I can't easily cry because of my own life... Feeling so awkward right now... Anybody tips how to feel better? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca~ Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Oh, I am so sorry. D: I offer hugs if you want them.. Unfortunately, the only thing that will really make you feel better is time. :( (Also, don't worry about not crying. Everyone grieves differently.) When my grandfather died, I just remembered all the time I had spent with him, all the things he taught me, all the ways that he enriched my life. It helped me realise that he's still around in various ways, and that he won't truely be gone until no one is around that remembers him. (Oh my god, I sound like Dumbledore.) Perhaps that will help you too? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shiny Vulpix Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 i had the same problem with my grandpa,he died in 2009.but i just couldn't really cry while i also slapped myself....yes i slapped myself but what you could do,hmm did you love her a lot?if you did,and cared for her,i think you will be fine,so pray for her so that she will be safe in heaven.not really best idea,but i think you should do that,also,you shouldn't be sorry for your self just because you can't cry.if you can't cry,then thats fine,as long as you love her, she loved you,then it's fine,and i think you are supposed to pay your respects.That happens with my family sometimes. What I do when I return home:I say,"Hi Grandpa!" And I always think like that if he could be there, I think about him too,and I think you should remember some things you've done with her. I remembered helping him get his pillow... Funny thing is,We went to his grave at the memorial park 3 days ago,and didn't even have a mat so we could pray for him... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skylee Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 i agree everyone grieves in different ways. don't feel bad just because u feel like you SHOULD be crying. find what works best for you. For me it was spending time with family and also taking some alone time whenever i needed it. like scoptophobia said the only thing that will really make you feel better is time. it took me a really long time. years. i'm still not completely over it but i've definitely come to peace with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lexielu22 Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 i agree everyone grieves in different ways. don't feel bad just because u feel like you SHOULD be crying. find what works best for you. For me it was spending time with family and also taking some alone time whenever i needed it. like scoptophobia said the only thing that will really make you feel better is time. it took me a really long time. years. i'm still not completely over it but i've definitely come to peace with it. I agree this is really true only time can heal you wounds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashbash Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 I'm really sorry for your loss. :( I'm sure it has to be difficult. I don't really have any tips but I do hope you find something that will help. I think we all have to deal with that type of thing in our own way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alynniae Posted June 15, 2012 Author Share Posted June 15, 2012 Everybody, thank you so much :) I realised i won't have the concentration to sit in school all day so i'm home, but after school's over i'm going to a friend of mine to chat and dance silly dances an listen to music, etc... Just to have something else on my mind. The cremation will be on tuesday so i can't start forgetting about it 'till then but after that i'll just slowly grieve and see what comes. Once again, thanks everyone, you're all so kind :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca~ Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 Everybody, thank you so much :) I realised i won't have the concentration to sit in school all day so i'm home, but after school's over i'm going to a friend of mine to chat and dance silly dances an listen to music, etc... Just to have something else on my mind. The cremation will be on tuesday so i can't start forgetting about it 'till then but after that i'll just slowly grieve and see what comes. Once again, thanks everyone, you're all so kind :) Yeah, school is the last thing you need right now. After my grandfather died, I took a week off. It was the best thing for me to do- I could spend time with my family, and try to come to terms with it. I hope the time with your friend does you a world of good. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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