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Good things disguised as bad things?


Alice ☮

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Have you guys ever had something bad happen to you, but then turn out to be something really positive?

 

For example, a few months ago, my ex dumped me. And didn't even want to be friends or see me ever again. I was heartbroken and devastated. But now, I realize what an awful and abusive relationship it was. That realization was so liberating. Then, recently, a friend of mine from college (whom I've known for 3 years) confessed that he had a crush on me! Had my ex never dumped me, I would not be in the position I am today, surrounded by wonderful and supportive people. (And with a romantic interest to boot! *blush* <3)

 

Another, less extreme, example: I was on my way to a shopping center I'd never been to before, and I got completely and utterly lost. It was past closing time, and I had not yet found the shopping center. I then happened upon an old friend who was able to give me directions. We started talking again and have plans spring break. Our friendship would not have been rekindled had I not gotten lost in the first place.

 

Have you guys had negative experiences turn out to be good ones? :P

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I had a similar experience to yours. I was with my ex for three years, lived with him for just over a year and all of a sudden, he broke up with me. Said he hated me, no longer loved me and couldn't stand me.

 

My heart shattered, I just lost it.

 

But now? I realize how much stronger it's made me and oh, if he hadn't broken up with me, I wouldn't have started playing Neopets again or found my love for FanFiction and Anime! =D

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yes , of course , lots of things happened to me that are too numerous to count ... one of those first experiences was losing my first love ... just like you , then realizing that it was probably going to kill me since I loved her eternally and she didn't care the least ... she was just using me ...

 

another example is when I had to switch colleges and travel to a less expensive place (because of my financial situation) ... it turned out to be the best years of my life ... it was the way it happened ... my uncle and his family were visiting us from another country ... he contacted an old friend he hadn't seen in 20 years ... that friend came to visit us and told me about that place ... out of the blue ... I didn't even ask him ...

 

life is full of surprises and you never know God's plan for you ... (even for those who are non-believers ... nothing is by chance or coincidence)

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I kind of go on the life theory, that every cloud has a silver lining! There are so many occasions in life when you just see that tiny glimmer of silver, under all of that black angry cloud, looking for that silver, makes everything worthwhile :)

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On the relationships thing- I think the best relationships are those that you don't go actively looking for. Someone just happens to stumble into your life, and they are there for a reason. I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason- and things will always work out. I can't say I have something that majorly sticks out to me as being something bad disguising the good- but chances are it has happened.

 

I guess the only thing I can really think of at the moment that's major is that a few years ago (before I was dating my current beau) I was hopelessly in love with this guy, except he's gay. Needless to say I really really cherished him and appreciated every moment that we got to talk (he also lives 4 hours away from me) through messages, msn, etc. I didn't actually know he was gay when I fell for him, but about 4 months into me being in love with him I found out. Obviously that was a pretty difficult time for me because I also thought "if he wasn't gay- maybe he would've liked me?" since we got a long really well. HOWEVER, my affection for him, and our friendship has made me into a better person. Because of him (and a family member actually) I've become exceptionally pro-gay rights (not that I had a problem with it before- but now I will actively fight) and I'm more careful about what I say. I think he's been a great role-model and I think he really helped change some of my perspective in life.

 

Okay. I'm done. Sorry. That was part of my life story. :P

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