Lauren_x Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 And I have done for a long, long time (about 7 years) and we've known each other since primary school. We're pretty good friends and text occasionally and can have a laugh together but the problem is I'm practically in love with him! He just gives me that fluttery, fast-heartbeat feeling and it's messing things up because he won't take the hint. Now he hasn't had a girlfriend in a long time and I don't think he's interested in anyone in a romantic way at the moment but whenever I get a little too flirty or gear the conversation towards who he might like he seems to change topic. We have a lot of the same interests and the same political views and a very similar sense of humour and I think we would make a great couple. It's so frustrating because everyone says the same thing to me too! It's really getting to the point where I want to straight up tell him that I like him and just deal with the consequences. I can't go on with this tense situation much longer it's driving me crazy. Would really love you guys' thoughts and opinions on this <3 x Ps. Changed my profile pic to one of me instead of one of my neopets :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billpika_x8 Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Give it to him straight. Tell him "I love you" directly. Then sit back and let it sink in. Or at least that's what I would do. :laughingsmiley: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angeló Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 you should totally tell him how you feel 7 years is an awfully long , long time .. do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if" ??? on a side note , you look cute in your pic :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Ryan Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Lol, why wait? I'd just ask him out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilshadowdweller Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I'd take a deep breathe and gather up the courage to tell him personally, more preferably when you are alone and both comfortable and having a good time. As your friend, he should be able to cope with many different truths and care about you all of the same. But obviously this seems to be a big deal to you and it feels like you're already established it to be a goal - from what it sounds like, you've weighed the pros and cons for this goal, and you comprehend the consquences. If he doesn't accept, it may hurt. He may not want to harm you. But if you still want to maintain a friendship regardless, you can still explain to him that it hurts but it's good to know. As friends, he does like you and obviously you relate well with each other. But remember : some people are better off as friends, and it's not an insult if he denies you - possibly because of this. If he does accept, and potentially returns the feelings, then it's up to you two to decide where to go from there. Perhaps try a date with just you two and see how it makes you feel. If things go well, continue from there but try to make sure you have things set up in place if it doesn't work out. My boyfriend is my best friend. But he wasn't my best friend before. Now, he's 100% my very best friend. People even tell us that they don't feel awkward with us because even though they know we're a great couple, we don't really flaunt it and we seem to act just like friends. Also, consider the pros and cons for the group(s) you guys are in. Would it be OK to the rest of your friends? Will you be able to not attempt to make friends side with each other? Do you want to be openly affectionate around friends or more friend-like previously? Good luck. I know that this is hard. But it's flattering to hear one has a crush on you, despite how awkward it may seem! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
behemothrules Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Even though this would be wayy easier said than done, you should definitely tell him how you feel. You wouldn't want to spend another seven years feeling this way would you? I think it would be better to take the chance, than wondering what would have happened if you had said anything. good luck :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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