What do you look for in a relationship?

[khaos]

I know I'm the last person who should be starting this topic, but whatever.

 

What do you like in a boy/girl?

[Jacky]

Actually you are asking 2 totally different things here. :P "what do you like in a boy/girl" will have a totally different answer than "what do you look for in a relationship".

 

Personally I like guys with long dark hair, light (gray/green/blue) eyes, tall, nice body but not too muscular.

 

These things are absolutely not important in a relationship though. In a relationship it is important that you can talk, laugh, cry, have fun, discuss and fight together. (yes, fighting once in a while is very important too, believe me. Just don't start throwing things or something like that :P). You need to share interest, accept each other's good and bad sides, be able to trust each other and be able to give each other freedom without growing apart. Also, you need to respect yourself and each other and most important of all, a good relationship needs constant work from both sides. It's a give and take thing.

[Angeló]

^ what she said pretty much sums up life as a whole

[Kaana]

I think what watery black said pretty much sums up everything. Just out of curiosity though, why'd you start this thread, Khaos? :P Also, your poll options aren't very specific. Just sayin'.

[Nataluna]

i look for someone whom it is a real partnership, who understands me and would have similar interests. a key thing is understanding my need for personal space and time in following things that i like to keep as my personal interests.

 

i've had bad luck with relationships so far, most of mine have tended to be incredibly clingy and i really cannot stand being smothered. nor do i think it necessary to comment on what i do all the time, i really also enjoy my own space, and do not like to sacrifice time with my other loved ones and friends over a relationship also.

 

so yeah.. so far not much luck, but that is what i hope to find some day.. (think i'm probably too picky)

[billpika_x8]

The eyes... I always look to the face first... I always love looking straight into someone's pretty eyes :P :shiftyeyes_anim:

[LizyMarie]

Ah, an interesting topic indeed!!

 

Personally I have more than one. So I wasn't sure how to vote.

Body, Acceptance, Confidence, Intelligence with Common Sense, Humility.

 

This is actually a lot to ask for it seems, as most people do not match up to such standards. But why aim low ?

 

But then I ask for these things also because I am so harshly honest and rational that it takes a person like me to handle me. :)

 

Everyone is different, though, and I will always enjoy watching people of any kind.

[eightbitdimwit]

A good sense of humor (especially a mischievous one) and brains are what I like. Someone who likes at least some of the things I'm really into would be ideal, too.

 

My screening process has gotten pretty insane over the years, though. When I tried for "funny, intelligent, and nerdy," I'd get a funny, intelligent, nerdy guy with a truckload of problems. I'm sure you could see how a list of "I know this should go without saying, but please don't do _ to me!" things could get very long, but...

 

All my friends joke about my terrible taste, lol. I can't pick 'em to save my life. I have no idea what I want, really.

[Trig]

I'm very...confusing. *ahem*

 

In Guys:

Looks: I like a guy with nice hair, usually it's a lighter colour. I prefer blue eyes, but I don't really even notice eyes very much so it doesn't matter that much. And I like guys that are in shape, but not too muscular, I tend to like a little bit of 'chub' because it's so comfortable and snuggly!

Personality: I want someone who is open minded, can support me emotionally, is trustworthy, respects me, and is a kind and caring person. I also like romantic guys :$ I also generally prefer more intelligent guys...but not super nerdy, I want someone that still can have fun.

 

In Girls: (As it seems everyone is pretty open here in terms of being cool with sexuality)

Looks: Usually I prefer more masculine looking women (I guess *stereotypical lesbian* some people might say...but then that's very stereotypical...so yeah) or generally blonde hair...longish but not too long, and a nice body :)

Personality: Same as for guys, just replace guys with girls I suppose?

[billpika_x8]

Brown eyes. I always have like sparkling, brown eyes.... why am I saying this?

[LizyMarie]

I'm very...confusing. *ahem*

 

In Guys:

Looks: I like a guy with nice hair, usually it's a lighter colour. I prefer blue eyes, but I don't really even notice eyes very much so it doesn't matter that much. And I like guys that are in shape, but not too muscular, I tend to like a little bit of 'chub' because it's so comfortable and snuggly!

Personality: I want someone who is open minded, can support me emotionally, is trustworthy, respects me, and is a kind and caring person. I also like romantic guys :$ I also generally prefer more intelligent guys...but not super nerdy, I want someone that still can have fun.

 

In Girls: (As it seems everyone is pretty open here in terms of being cool with sexuality)

Looks: Usually I prefer more masculine looking women (I guess *stereotypical lesbian* some people might say...but then that's very stereotypical...so yeah) or generally blonde hair...longish but not too long, and a nice body :)

Personality: Same as for guys, just replace guys with girls I suppose?

 

That's not too confusing :) It's good to know what you like and want out of a person. It helps your direction in life.

 

Brown eyes. I always have like sparkling, brown eyes.... why am I saying this?

 

You say what is on your mind, perhaps? Brown eyes are pretty, maybe that's just the thing you look for and nothing else. :P

[Viridian]

The term 'body' was in there twice, so I removed one. For me, it's the general look of the person (so I said hair and eyes), however they obviously have to be suitable for me when it comes to personality. Currently my boyfriend is someone who is so alike with me, that some people think of us as siblings rather than lovers. :P

[khaos]

I'm surprised no one else has chosen religion.

And thanks for removing it.

I like all the answers here so far, more detailed than anything I could come up with.

[lilshadowdweller]

Well, the poll can't possibly cover everything! But when I'm searching for someone (I currently am not and have a wonderful boyfriend), I look for if I find them attractive or not. This differs from person to person. If I get the nice, cute, happy feeling when I'm around them, well, maybe I want to hang out! So, when I first meet them, I do base it by looks technically.

 

Then of course comes personality. If I find them attractive and I admire their personality, they are looking to be a good fit. I like blue/greenish eyes compared with amber or brown, but it's not a biggy. My 3+ year boyfriend has brown eyes. They're beautiful regardless. If they make me laugh, that's a huge plus. I also want someone whos cuddle. I'm big on cuddling!

 

I don't need someone who is overally affectionate. I don't really care for religion UNLESS they are super religious -- because that goes against my own values. (I don't need someone attempting to lecture me about their faith or why I should switch, ect).

 

I also kind of look for people opposite of myself. I'm shy and low in confidence, so I'd prefer someone who isn't shy and appears to have good confidence. I guess that's what I like about my boyfriend. We balance each other out with our strengths and weaknesses. I also want someone who cares about others. I care deeply about the people around me and wanting to help.

 

Most importantly, though, I need a person I can trust. Who I can tell anything to and won't spread or judge. He doesn't. He's perfect.

 

So yeah, there's a lot of different things for me!

[Trig]

I didn't choose religion because I don't find it a huge issue. As lilshadowdweller said, if someone was completely and super religious I probably wouldn't go for them because that goes against many of my values and whole acceptance of the LGBTQ community and such; but other than that I don't really mind.

[Kaana]

I'm semi-religious. Religion would really only be an issue if, to be with them, I had to convert to their religion. Otherwise, if they want to practice something else when I go to church, that's fine with me.

[billpika_x8]

I'm very...confusing. *ahem*

 

In Guys:

Looks: I like a guy with nice hair, usually it's a lighter colour. I prefer blue eyes, but I don't really even notice eyes very much so it doesn't matter that much. And I like guys that are in shape, but not too muscular, I tend to like a little bit of 'chub' because it's so comfortable and snuggly!

Personality: I want someone who is open minded, can support me emotionally, is trustworthy, respects me, and is a kind and caring person. I also like romantic guys :$ I also generally prefer more intelligent guys...but not super nerdy, I want someone that still can have fun.

 

In Girls: (As it seems everyone is pretty open here in terms of being cool with sexuality)

Looks: Usually I prefer more masculine looking women (I guess *stereotypical lesbian* some people might say...but then that's very stereotypical...so yeah) or generally blonde hair...longish but not too long, and a nice body :)

Personality: Same as for guys, just replace guys with girls I suppose?

 

And we all love stereotypes... not. :laughingsmiley:

And I need to add one more thing. I like people who laugh easily, will always be at your side, and have some looks. Hair color isn't much. Religion isn't much either, unless ...

Well, the poll can't possibly cover everything! But when I'm searching for someone (I currently am not and have a wonderful boyfriend), I look for if I find them attractive or not. This differs from person to person. If I get the nice, cute, happy feeling when I'm around them, well, maybe I want to hang out! So, when I first meet them, I do base it by looks technically.

 

Then of course comes personality. If I find them attractive and I admire their personality, they are looking to be a good fit. I like blue/greenish eyes compared with amber or brown, but it's not a biggy. My 3+ year boyfriend has brown eyes. They're beautiful regardless. If they make me laugh, that's a huge plus. I also want someone whos cuddle. I'm big on cuddling!

 

I don't need someone who is overally affectionate. I don't really care for religion UNLESS they are super religious -- because that goes against my own values. (I don't need someone attempting to lecture me about their faith or why I should switch, ect).

 

I also kind of look for people opposite of myself. I'm shy and low in confidence, so I'd prefer someone who isn't shy and appears to have good confidence. I guess that's what I like about my boyfriend. We balance each other out with our strengths and weaknesses. I also want someone who cares about others. I care deeply about the people around me and wanting to help.

 

Most importantly, though, I need a person I can trust. Who I can tell anything to and won't spread or judge. He doesn't. He's perfect.

 

So yeah, there's a lot of different things for me!

 

I'm not posting fast enough. I have to quote what everyone else says.

[Saxen]

I don't really have a specific 'type' of person I go for in regards to looks. If a person strikes me and I get that jellybelly thing then it doesn't matter what they look like, it's more of a chemistry thing; I've brushed past someone before in a shop, not even seeing their face and felt a jolt of electricity up my spine. It was mere coincidence that he turned out to be attractive :P. I like to rely on my primal instincts first and then on personality. I guess that's why I have no *real* preference as to men or women ^^

 

The things I look for in another person are; trust; good sense of humor and the ability to take the mick out of themselves; adventurousness; kindness; conscientiousness; intelligence; good manners (weird one but it's important!); able to hold their own in an argument; NO LYING - that's my biggest hate ever XD. Also I like to have conversations about the Universe and Everything for hours and hours, there's no shutting me up. So someone who can put up with that lol

[Trig]

@billpika: Stereotypes definitely aren't good, I'm just saying I usually like women that most people would classify as STEREOTYPICALLY lesbian looking >_> Which is pretty bad. I also do not enjoy stereotypes, which is why I then clarified with the whole "masculine-ish looking women" I guess pretty andryogynous for myself :)