Bubbleline Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 The feeling you get when you have had the same argument a billion times and you suddenly realize that you should just stop because nothing is gonna change. That feeling when you are at your wits' end because no matter how much you yell and cry and scream, the 'other' will never try to understand or change. That feeling when you realize that maybe it's time to stop clinging to the hope of what a person could be and just let them go and try to move on. I have to deal with that feeling constantly. It hurt when I was going through this with my ex. He would constantly insist that I was 'too sensitive' instead of considering that maybe he was being too callous. I did things to change the way I acted or talked for him but he never returned the favor. I'm not asking for anyone to change who they are for me. I didn't change who I was as a person for my ex. I just tweaked things to make him happy. I compromised. Isn't that what many people do for loved ones? But it wasn't too hard to let him go because after a while I fell out of love with him when I realized he wouldn't change. I was able to move on and forget. How am I supposed to do that when it's my father this time? I'm not looking for answers or anything. I just needed to rant before my heart burst and I did something that I might've regretted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pchau123 Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 I know how you feel. My dad does the same thing. I argue with him about the same thing over and over and he ends up forgetting and not caring and doesn't change a thing. It's so annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca~ Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I have the same problem with my own father. We argued about everything, but it would always end with him yelling over me, and basically telling me that I was too young to have an opinion that mattered. The only thing that has helped has been me moving out of their house. I now only see him for a couple of hours every other week or so, and it has made our relationship about a million times better. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karmacow Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 That sounds very familiar to me. There was a lot of tension between me and my father around the time before I moved out. As you can probably deduct from that sentence, it got so bad that I felt that I had to get out ASAP, which I did. I must have been 20 at the time, so it was a reasonable time to move out anyway. Everything has to be a certain way with him, which is hard to live with, but our relationship has improved immensely after we got some distance between us and now it's easier to let sleeping dogs lie. He can have his opinions and I can have mine, neither is of any consequence to the other. I hope you guys work out your issues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubbleline Posted September 4, 2012 Author Share Posted September 4, 2012 Thanks guys. Unfortunately I think moving out might take a while for me seeing as how my goal is to move to Canada and that is a long way away from Texas. But I'll be okay. Just needed to calm down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca~ Posted September 4, 2012 Share Posted September 4, 2012 Thanks guys. Unfortunately I think moving out might take a while for me seeing as how my goal is to move to Canada and that is a long way away from Texas. But I'll be okay. Just needed to calm down. Ah, yeah, that may take you a while. :( But yeah, we are here to listen to rants whenever you want to share them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubbleline Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Thanks for listening. Sometimes ranting can help. :P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cherryv Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I used to have the same argument with my father over and over again too. He eventually divorced my mom and moved of the house, but I was not living there when that happened, and I, like Rebecca, moved to another house -not because of him, but- to be in peace with my mind, thing that was not going on with him around. I don't know how the specific relationship you have with your father is, but maybe you should stop argueing... People of certain age tend to think they're always right, and adopt a bad attitude even with their children... Whatever you do, please don't let him make you feel bad with yourself! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole C Posted December 16, 2012 Share Posted December 16, 2012 I know it is tough, but seeing you and your dad stay under the same roof, you will have to bear with it :( my dad's like that too and even my mum gets annoyed by him.. If it gets worse, you can choose to shift out once you are financially stable to do so :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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