Cornflakes Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 He died this morning, and I am really sad, but I don't really have anyone to talk to, so I thought I would come here, because you guys are like my only friends, and because I HATE my family, and I don't want to talk to them, and I really like commas, and making jokes when I'm sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wembly Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I'm sorry to hear about that. We of course are here for you if you want to talk about it or about him. Also, I really appreciate your use of commas :) it helps silly people like me be able to read sentences more accurately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spritzie Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I'm really sorry to hear that. Losing a grandparent is always very difficult. Like Wembly said, we're all here for you. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siemis Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Thats really sad ,___, Did you have a close relationship to him? My Grandfathers died before I was born but I have a Grandma I love very much. I visit her on a regular basis to help her out. Why did he died? A illness? *hug* ._. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Masaryk Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I'm sorry for your loss. Losing anyone you're close to is very difficult, especially since you have a poor relationship with the rest of your family. We, at TDNF, are all here to listen and to be a virtual shoulder to cry on. We have lots of virtual tissues to go along with all the virtual cookies. Commas are great. They are so very helpful in avoiding run-on sentences. I don't like run-on sentences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viridian Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Sorry for you cornflakes :( I lost one of my grandpas 3 years ago, so I know how it feels. We'll be here for you! *bear hug* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Ryan Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Awww, i'm sorry Cornflakes. :( It really sucks when a family member dies(Captain obvious, reporting!). I'm glad you decided to talk to us about it though. 8D And lol, I do the same thing when i'm sad or someone else is. xD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornflakes Posted January 21, 2011 Author Share Posted January 21, 2011 Aw thanks you guys *huggles* My Paw-Paw and I were pretty good pals when I was younger. But then I grew up, and his evil wife, my grandmother, made it unbearable to visit, so I just stayed away. He spent most of his latter years being morbidly obese, which I'm positive lead to his untimely death. He wasn't exactly young, but he wasn't that old, either. Well, I guess I have no idea how old he was, but anyway. Sorry to be such a bummer. Like I said, I have no one else to talk about it with. And thanks for the tissues and the compliments on my commas. haha I still have his old 70s sweater in my closet - it's a brown thing with white checkers that looks like something straight out of "The Brady Bunch." I'm thinking of wearing it to the funeral. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Yoshinho Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 I am sorry to hear about that. It is terrible when someone loses a family member. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyler. Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 I lost my grandpa in 2006 and I was really close to him :( It can really hurt when a family member dies, but you gotta be strong Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornflakes Posted January 28, 2011 Author Share Posted January 28, 2011 So now there is the dreary family drama developing. My aunt didn't even allow them to publish my grandfather's obituary in the paper, and is basically keeping his funeral a secret...I had to call every funeral home in town until I finally found the right one. For some odd reason they decided to postpone his funeral for DAYS. I have no idea why. So now my horrible family is locked in battle over my grandfather's meager possessions. My aunts are battling over stuff and one has threatened to have the other one arrested for "stealing." It's ridiculous and it hurts deeply. It just goes to show, just because someone gets older doesn't mean they grow up. I think everyone in my family should be ashamed of themselves. Well, I am braving the battle front and attending his 'secret' visitation tomorrow. If they don't want me there for whatever reason (mostly because I refuse to join their stupid selfish games and pick sides) well they're just going to have to get over it, because I love my grandfather, and above all, it's about HIM, and not anyone else. :sad01_anim: Now I can't even think about wearing his old sweater to the funeral -- my horrible aunt might see it and try to rip it off of me or something. And also, now I can't bring my son to the funeral. I don't want him seeing his family acting like that at a place that is an absolutely inappropriate venue for such childish and lascivious behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Masaryk Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 I can't imagine having to go through this kind of drama during such a stressful time. Thankfully, I have never experienced anything like this following the death of a family member. I can't believe that you actually had to find out where the funeral is being held by yourself. What kind of people won't even tell their own kin where a relative's funeral is being held? My paternal aunts all suffer from various paranoid disorders, and there were still obituaries for my dad, grandma, and grandpa, even if there was only a private funeral. I can't imagine who would do that sort of thing! :sad01_anim: It is probably best to not bring your son to the visitation or funeral. I don't know how old your son is, but I'm guessing he probably isn't old enough to have a solid understanding of death, let alone horrid family dynamics. He would likely only be very stressed out by being at the funeral, and he would get nothing out of it but heartache. You are better off having a quiet, personal, private memorial to your grandpa to share with your partner and your son. Maybe make a small shrine to him, and set some flowers out, or visit a location that was special to your grandpa. I'm really sorry to hear that your family is being so horrible about this. I hope you can make it though the funeral, getting what you need from it, then get out quickly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornflakes Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 You are better off having a quiet, personal, private memorial to your grandpa to share with your partner and your son. Maybe make a small shrine to him, and set some flowers out, or visit a location that was special to your grandpa. I hadn't even thought of that....that is a fantastic idea. And thanks for the sympathies. It's tremendously helpful to have people who share my outrage on some level. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spritzie Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 I'm sorry you're going though this. Especially since losing a loved one is hard enough on its own. This happened to a bit of a degree with my family. My grandpa died in February of 2008. My grandma died 9 months later, in November of 2008. After the funeral for my grandma, my uncle brought over all the family and such to my grandparents house, where everyone started picking over things, with my uncle just basically telling everyone to take whatever they wanted. (This being right after the funeral. I just walked out sobbing.) Then the day of the funeral, my sister completely lost her mind. She was trying on the jewelry of my grandma's, arguing over what she should get. (My sister is weird, but it was because instead of showing grief, in showed as anger for her.) But she just totally flipped. Arguing about things that really didn't matter. And especially on a day like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandongamer Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 He died this morning, and I am really sad, but I don't really have anyone to talk to, so I thought I would come here, because you guys are like my only friends, and because I HATE my family, and I don't want to talk to them, and I really like commas, and making jokes when I'm sad. I'm so sorry to hear that. :( I hope everything is alright. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Domino Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I'm sorry Cornflakes. Losing a grandparent sucks. When my grandma died, the same thing happened...only not as bad. My aunts (and mom) all started arguing over what jewelrey they were going to get. I was in 4th grade, so I didn't know exactly what was going on, but it still seemed silly and petty to be arguing over trinkets in such a sad time. Wear the sweater. Who cares what your aunts think. It would be a nice rememberance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornflakes Posted February 1, 2011 Author Share Posted February 1, 2011 Thanks :) You are all too kind. He is buried now so it's closure time, hooray. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam I Am Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that. My best friend's mom died of cancer almost a year ago and we were really close so I can understand the pain you're probably going through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnitheXweetok Posted February 5, 2011 Share Posted February 5, 2011 Im so sorry!!! You will get 10k anyway :) *hug* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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