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Okay, so I have best friend that I met about 4 years ago and we have been very close while having deep conversations about life, each other and academic stuff like religion. We would say how much we love each other and and what our friendship means to us. We have long and engaging conversations by texting each other; if she sends a long message, I send a long message back in reply. Since I had this friend, she has had trouble in the past with some life issues and takes a while to respond sometimes (Average time: 2 weeks to a month) to answer to my messages. I have never taken more than 2 weeks to respond to her messages that she has sent me. I usually give her the benefit of the doubt because she says that sometimes that she is busy with school, work or life issues. When she does text me back, I completely forgive her for taking a while because I am so happy to talk to her again! :) This friendship is long distance and we live half way around the world from each other so I know that time differences can be taken into account. But, the longest I have waited for a response sometimes is 2 months. I really felt sad during that time because I was anxious to know what going on in her life. So, last time I heard from her was that she wasn't feeling good and she will tell me what is wrong soon. That was a month ago from now. I send her a message a couple of days ago asking her if she was okay; she still has not responded. Even if she has something going on in her life, my patience is wearing thin on her. Seeing as she has worn my patience thin in the past, I feel like she is doing the same thing again. I love her very much and want to keep this friendship alive, but I start to feel anxious and play with my emotions and rational thinking. I feel like there is no excuse no matter who you are to take that long to answer unintentionally. Sorry for the lenthy friend story but, any advice? Should I be a good friend a be patient? Or should I just let my emotional connection away from her? Thanks to all.