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To be honest I think you're being pretty unfair and negative in the way in which you talk about her. I have a friend who is depressed, has an eating disorder (although she is trying to tell me that she's gotten better), has attempted to commit suicide and also doesn't usually help me out when I have problems- usually it's trying to one up me saying "oh, well that sucks, but look at what sucks MORE in my life." However, she's one of my best friends and I understand that that's who she is. I don't usually talk to her about issues in my life anymore if I know they are going to trigger a competition of who's life is worse, and I'm there for her to listen. I guess that's just the type of person I am though.
 
What I'm saying is you need to figure out whether you really want her in your life as your friend. If you do you need to understand that there are some things, especially if she has a mental disorder, that she isn't going to be able to provide for you. If she's young enough I'd contact her parents and let them know what's going on so that she can get the help it sounds like she desperately needs. Also, suicide isn't something that should be taken lightly and I really think you should think about what you're saying when you say "I just know she is going to commit suicide one day." Personally, I'd be more focused on trying to prevent that than foreshadowing that.
 
All in all you need to do what's best for you, as others have said, and your happiness needs to come first. However, in doing that you need to recognize what she might be dealing with and realize that this friend is definitely different than what you're expecting from a friendship. If she's not able to provide you with what you need then I really do think you should be taking a few steps back and seeing if this is something you should really be involved with.

Hey guys!
 
So you might've noticed I haven't really been active on the boards in the past week. I was in Portugal with my school over here in Spain (I'm on a three month exchange- you can see the topic in the "Your Life" forums). This next week I'm going to be at the beach with my host family and I feel really awkward going on the computer for long amounts of time so I won't be posting. Rest assured when I get back I'll try and kick my butt into gear and catch up on everything I've missed! I'll miss you guys! Talk to you all soon! :)

I realize that we are dealing with a troll here but I'm so incredibly passionate about this topic that I need to express myself. Thank you :)
 
Heterosexuality isn't something that should be encouraged either then. Why don't we just let people make their own decisions for themselves? Why are YOU trying to tell OTHER PEOPLE how to live their life? Why can't they love who they love or be who they want to be? I feel quite sorry for you that you had to choose to be straight because you felt internally, and possibly externally oppressed. Honestly there is nothing wrong with you if you love someone of the same sex, just as their is nothing wrong with you if you love someone of the opposite sex. Couldn't I say to a straight person "well, have you ever TRIED to love someone of the same gender?".
 
Sorry but you can't cure homosexuality- and to be honest, it's not something that needs a 'cure'. It's not a disease and it's natural so stop trying to convince yourself and others that it's not.
 
This really isn't the place to try and solve social anxiety. On the other hand, if you have social anxiety then you probably enjoy talking on the internet more than in real life so you should be posting on more topics :)
 
I think you'll find that the people who are pro-LGBT are using facts- as someone said one of the most common FACTS is "it doesn't hurt me". In any event, you'll find photos, videos, and quotes posted throughout this subject that highlight many facts. Clearly you didn't take the opportunity to watch the video I posted, nor read through all of the posts. And we don't think you're a disgusting pansy who should be shot- I think that's pretty harsh. I do however think you are being pretty ignorant. If you don't approve of being gay, fine, but don't try and shove your beliefs on other people because it doesn't affect you. Just because gay people will be allowed to get married doesn't mean you won't be. Fine if you don't approve of being gay but you should be accepting of it. I accept that you have your belief and don't agree with it- I'm not embracing you in any way because I don't agree with you, but you should be accepting of the fact that people should be able to live their lives without interference from others.
 
Yeah. I'm quite confused to. You're okay with bestiality but not homosexuality? Can you please explain that to me? I'm really not following it. You think it's okay that a man* or a woman* can force themselves upon an animal who cannot share their emotions. Sure maybe they can try and fight against it, but a lot of animals cannot stand up against humans. Please, go read animal cruelty laws. If two people, whether they happen to be of the same gender or not, consent to marriage- why shouldn't they be allowed?
 
*gender is fluid- so really anyone that falls in the gender fluidity- aka everyone on earth*
 
Also:

Hey guys!
 
So right now I'm on a 3-month student exchange in Spain. I figured this would be a great place to talk to you guys, share ups and downs, etc. I thought some of you might be really interested in this, and I have a blog documenting my daily adventures (complete with pictures!)
 
www.ofanestudiantedeintercambio.tumblr.com
 
I will also answer any questions you guys have here :) (Similar to reddit's AMA I suppose)
 
This is what the experience is, in brief:
I sent in an application and was matched up with a student in Spain (she's a year younger than I am). She came to live with me from the middle of August until November 7th and then returned home. Then, on February 9th I left my city to come to Spain and I will be here until May 3rd. The length of time is just shorter than 90 days so that a student visa is NOT required. I've been here for just over 2 weeks now. The temperature isn't what most people would think of when they think of Spain- when I arrived it was quite cold- probably got to 0* or possibly even slightly below some days. Since about Wednesday or Thursday it has started warming up a bit- right now I would say it's probably 15* outside (All of these are in Celcius by the way) and I'm really enjoying the temperature- I hope it stays like this and doesn't get too much hotter because we aren't allowed to wear shorts to school! I think that student exchanges are fantastic, but they don't come without their struggles. I was pretty homesick this past week, and I think just today I am finally starting to settle in a little bit. There's a pretty large language barrier- since I came over knowing very little Spanish (I had taken one class 3 years ago) but I'm learning quite quickly (that's what my family says anyways). In my case, my exchange partner and I definitely aren't best friends- but she is much better in her home environment than she was in MY home environment. I'm not a very social or outgoing person- and would rather be on the computer than go out- so I have to overcome some of these fears in order to truly enjoy myself here. I think I'm going to mature (although I'm already pretty mature for my age) and hopefully be less afraid of people because of this exchange. And obviously, the whole goal of this exchange for me is to learn Spanish (I've always liked the language).
 
So yeah...I guess that's it in short? If there are any other questions feel free to ask- and I figured I'd just share this in case you guys were interested :3 Also- if anyone speaks Spanish or knows of any great websites to help me learn- please let me know! Either through PM, responding here, or even neomail :) Thanks!

Sorry I haven't replied in a bit...so this message will be long *ahem*. A lot of great things have been mentioned above and I hope you take them into account. Also, like I said- I appreciate that you have your opinion and I have mine. I won't embrace your opinion- but I'll accept it; we're just trying to point out how you could be more accepting and rational. You might believe that homosexuality is wrong for whatever reason, I respect that; but you shouldn't be using your BELIEFS to interrupt someone's RIGHTS.
 
A lot of people are affected by famine and disease, and an lot of people are affected by the lack of legalization of gay marriage in many countries/states. Just because we can't completely solve one doesn't mean we shouldn't try and help solve others? People are trying to reduce famine and disease- so why shouldn't we legalize gay marriage to help out other people to? Allowing gay people to marry is NOT a complex issue- you fail to realize this.
 
 
WHOA. WHOA. WHOA. First of all, that's pretty sexist. In some marriages, the female is considered the protector and provider. In fact, in my home, my mom was the only one that worked for the past 3 years after my father lost his job- therefore she was the 'bread-winner' for the family. Also, that is HOW IT WAS. WAS IS THE KEYWORD there. Society progresses- it's natural and beneficial. I also have to take complaint with the fact that you think LGBT people only want families because of what they see around them. EXCUSE ME? Some females are drawn towards children and feel that it is their 'duty' to have a child, does it matter if they are straight, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, pansexual (I could go on). NO. Some men really want a family as well. Being gay doesn't change your draw towards kids. Some straight couples don't want children because they have absolutely no draw towards that way of life- is society telling straight couples not to have kids? NO. In fact, people who don't want children are usually frowned upon in society and seen as selfish!
 
Thank you Canada! I mean...people don't consider Canada to be some crazy country where everything goes. Just because the person who lives 3 doors down from you has chosen to marry the person they are in love with doesn't mean that it affects me or anyone else that lives near them. They are allowed to live a happy life- go figure?
 
I would think so. I mean, our society can old handle discrimination for so long before people realize they have to change. Sure there's still racism, but a lot more has been done and there is race equality. Sure there is still sexism, but we have sex equality. There is always going to be someone who opposes something, but with no logical arguments against a simple thing like this I think the deeming of Prop 8 unconstitutional foretells what will happen.
 
Why can't I have multiple marriages? Does everyone in the marriage consent? Yes. Okay then, there's no issue with it. There are many people who consider themselves polyamorous and there shouldn't be anything wrong with that. I think you will find in another 50 years there is much talk in the government of legalizing that sort of relationship as those people speak up and are more accepted. If it's not hurting anyone- why oppose it?
 
Exactly. Everyone consents to it- then it's okay. Have you ever seen TLC's show Sister Wives? I haven't, but from the commercials I've seen it looks like they are all happy. So why be mad at them? Are they affecting your daily life? Nope.
 
 
Okay, first of all, first part- sexist again. You're making a farce of this and I'm not liking it- sorry if I'm being to sensitive- but really? Okay, secondly, whoever is killed is negatively affected, whoever is starving is negatively affected, wait...whoever gets married is...what's this...POSITIVELY AFFECTED? No kidding eh? Plus, if you're going with that logic shouldn't we outlaw divorce since usually at least one of the people participating in the divorce isn't happy about it? Personally I think divorce ruins the 'sanctity' of marriage more.
 
I might not enter into a gay marriage. I might. Who knows. Currently I portray myself as 'straight' (even though I'm not) and I'm fairly confident my relationship will work out- but if it doesn't- maybe I'll try dating someone of the same sex. I don't really care- it's all about who I happen to fall in love with- and I'd be unhappy in the GOVERNMENT or someone's RELIGION told me I wasn't allowed to love that person. Plus, it affects my pansexual brother, my bisexual best friend, and my transgendered acquaintance. It affects my gay teacher, and the families of those children who commit suicide because of the social discrimination for WHO THEY ARE and HOW THEY ARE BORN. So even if it didn't directly affect me, it would affect all of those people- which would usually, in turn, affect me.
 
Also...wouldn't equality be having the same for everyone? Making everything equal? I mean...saying you're going to make things equal...but calling a marriage and a civil union exactly that: a marriage and a civil union, is not making things equal. To do that you would have to call them both marriages, or both civil unions.
 
Okay, and with that I think I'm done quoting all of the points I've missed. I'd like to leave you with a few photos and a quote. I realize you haven't brought religion into this...but most people do when they're opposing gay marriage. All you have to say is that gay marriage isn't what marriage was? Maybe you have religious beliefs behind that, maybe you don't, I don't know.

"Some people think that you can’t let same-sex couples get married without changing the definition of the word “marriage.” When we let openly gay people join the army, did we have to change the definition of the word “Army”? Did Rosa Parks make us change the definition of the word “bus”?
 
It’s one thing to blame the Bible for your bigotry, but don’t blame the dictionary." — California attorney and semi-professional cynic Bill Smith on today’s Ninth Circuit decision regarding Proposition 8.
 
Also, this is the dictionary definition of marriage (while 1.5 say man and woman, there are 3.5 more that don't (: ) :
1. the state, condition, or relationship of being married
2. the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of two people to live as a married couple, including the accompanying social festivities
3. any close or intimate association or union