Spritzie

I never used to be, but I've become the person you're describing and I have exact thing going on with my best friend. We're know each other for years and write back and forth as much as we can. Sometimes our messages are so long, the messages actually take hours for both of us to write. Sometimes we replied to each other once a day, sometimes more than once. Then other times, things were going on life got in the way and we had little check-ins, but the actually long messages would take days, weeks or even months.

I hate to say it, but I was the first to disappear really. We had small messages in between, but the long messages mostly stopped from me. She knew, and she knew why. (I won't go into a lot detail, but I had the rather sudden death of a parent and it just changed everything.) As much as I wanted to reply, there were so many times when I just couldn't find the mental and emotional energy or strength to reply, to write much of anything beyond the surface statement of "I'm here, I'm alive and I'm surviving." Sitting down and focusing my mind for any amount of time was nearly impossible for me most days. My mind wouldn't cooperate, at least not in any helpful way. My mind always went places where I had to shut it down, just to make it through the day.

It's been nearly 3 years now, and I'm still not back to normal. I don't shut down as much mentally or emotionally, but my attention span and ability to focus has still never recovered.

The best I can say, is be as patient as you can for yourself. Her feeling the pressure to do things she's not ready for might make it even harder for her to be able to reach out. That was one of the best gifts my friend gave me during the worst. I never felt the pressure to be as present as I was, but from her words, I knew she cared and I knew she missed me and was there when I was ready. I would get little "Hi hope you're hanging in there, thinking of you" messages, but there wasn't the expectation to reply. I did when I could, but I couldn't always. I know it was hard for her, but her patience meant a lot to me, knowing she was there and was waiting and understood. It was one less thing I had to feel guilty about when I already felt guilt for so many things, real and imagined.

I used to wonder why another friend couldn't bother to reply to my texts, even a quick, I'll get with you soon, but now, being on the flip side, I understand how much energy just a simple text can require when you're in a bad place. Sometimes, just seeing texts or calls from people that were friends with my mom, I just can't cope. I've never been a call or text dodger, but there's times when I don't have the energy, and before I know it, I never did reply, or call back. It's not malicious, or purposeful, it's something that just sometimes happens when things aren't going well.

But you do have to take care of yourself too. If you're hurting too much, I'd try to pull back on your expectations from her. If you can't do that, then you have to do what you need to for yourself. The friend I had that never answered calls or texts and I never understood why. When I stopped waiting for her to reply or call back, and just kinda of figured that's how it would be and she'd get to me when she could, our friendship was easier. It wasn't to say it wasn't still sometimes hard or upsetting, especially since I've known her my whole life, but it made it less stressful and I was able to fully enjoy the time we spent together.

Were the items you tried that didn't work, coffees? I had a few like that and all of them had coffee as their type.

Also, if they have (Special) listed under their name in your SDB, they aren't a rarity that will work.

I think we all have weird little things we do when involving the Shop Wizard. I've been known to do the same thing you do.

Personally, when I'm searching something, I tend to avoid shops that have a ton of that item, even if it means paying a little bit more. I don't know why, but there's just something I don't like with shops that have a ton of one item. I also buy based on username if there's more than one with the same price.

Here you go. These are from the SSW:

http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=lichtafrell&buy_obj_info_id=47630&buy_cost_neopoints=1325(6 in stock)

http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=scatsmom&buy_obj_info_id=47630&buy_cost_neopoints=1350

http://www.neopets.com/browseshop.phtml?owner=skankera85&buy_obj_info_id=47630&buy_cost_neopoints=1350

:D Thank you! He's actually painted Island. The hair works because he's modeled after a character in a book (and movie/tv) series, Mortal Instruments and the character has hair that reminds me of that wig.

 

Editing in my Christmas customizations since I finally got around to completing them:

 

Yay! I always look forward to this post all year. I swear, this ends up being the reasoning behind my year's worth of NP saving.
 
Petpet WL: http://items.jellyneo.net/mywishes/spritzie/32129/
Stamp WL: http://items.jellyneo.net/mywishes/spritzie/32127/
NP Wearable WL: http://items.jellyneo.net/mywishes/spritzie/32128/
Side Galleries WL: http://items.jellyneo.net/mywishes/spritzie/32126/
 
For anyone that doesn't want to use the WLs because there's a lot there:
 
Red codestones
Any books (I give books to one pet first, anything she has already read trickles down to my other pets)
Any petpets (I save duplicates that are already in my gallery in my SDB for painting whenever I get Petpet PBs)
 
Happy holidays everyone! :D

I just finished getting my pets dressed for winter. I always have so much fun with winter customizations. :D Here they are:
 

Can we claim it on side accounts like for the NC mall birthday stuff?

 

As long as NP/NP items aren't awarded, you can claim on side accounts. This gifts an NC item and shows a code for a discount on NC Mall purchases, so you'll be fine getting this on your side accounts.

 

And for anyone wondering what you get:

 

 

Just a friendly reminder:

 

Please remember this is not a board to post results for your dailies. If you do achieve an amazing result, like a paintbrush/MP, it can be posted here, but typical daily results, even if positive, should be posted in the board for the appropriate daily in the Dailies sub-forum.

 

Thank you

Unfortunately, I didn't get around to getting my pets dressed for Halloween, which is something I really enjoy, but I did get them ready for fall.

 

 

 

Yay! It's great to see you back! There have been a lot of changes to the site. I've been kinda inactive recently with a lot going on, but I'm trying to get back into it as well.

You need to be a Super Member (400 posts) to be able to change your display name.

 

You can find more about member groups HERE.

I've had a long history of migraines with no apparent cause (I've had them for over 20 years now) and I've done a fair number of MRIs (And CAT scans, etc)

 

I remember specifically one when they had me bring in my own CD and they played it over speakers that I could hear inside the machine. They also allowed my mom to sit in the room with me and she sat down by my feet and just kept a hand on my leg so I'd know she was there. Those things both helped me, though I wasn't claustrophobic, I was pretty young at the time, so keeping me still and stopping me from freaking out was important. (I was probably about 7-9 at the time)

 

My last MRI was when I was 15 and that was a contrast one, as well as having my head immobilized in some sort of setup. By then, I had learned some biofeedback methods to see if that helped with my migraines, so I used those to distract myself. They were mostly mental exercises to keep my mind and body relaxed. My favorite was always picking a favorite place and just focusing on the details, like what you'd see, smell, feel, hear there. The more details I focused on, the more absorbed in that I would get. I used that one for my migraines the most. I still do it now, actually.

Go figure. The first AC I don't reach All Star in the last like, 4 years, and there's likely to be an amazing yooyu.

 

Definitely going to buy it with NP if I have to.

I seem to have pretty good luck with the Wishing Well off and on. I just had a wish granted last week. I always donate 21 NP, which I think is the minimum you can donate for it to count. I tend to make my wishes first thing in the morning when I get to work, which is around 5:45-6 am NST.

After a really, really long time of periodically spending NP because I couldn't help myself, I'm finally within a million of my current Regaining NP goal.

 

I also had my wish granted by the Wishing Well yesterday and received the Fyoras Balcony background :D

I don't know how far I will be getting in the ranking this year. It's been a rough year for anything going on outside of work, and even at work.

 

I'll hopefully be reaching rank 8 today. I made it to rank 8. Probably won't reach 9 today, but that would be nice.

From what I've experienced, and see from checking the RE thread, those that are posting images of their REs are getting screenshots of them and uploading them to image hosting sites, then posting the image.

I'm following the majority and going with the Seekers this round :D 

I apologize, I'm apparently having Monday Brain and only registered part of your question. Now that I've read it properly, hopefully I can be more helpful.

 

Can you paste the URL you're trying to use? Is it one from the sharing tab on an outfit page?

When replying, there's a button above the text box that once pressed, pops up a little window where you can paste the URL of the picture you are wanting to post. You can see where the button is below.
 

 

If you are seeing all the buttons grayed out, you'll need to click the little gray switch button to the direct right of your display picture.

 

If that's not working, can you try pasting the URL you're using, maybe it's a format issue.

I opted to go with the majority and go with the Thieves for this round.

I will delete your account as soon as I've posted this reply.
 
For future reference, moderators do not have the ability to delete accounts, that needs to be done by a site admin. Hrtbrk and I are site admins and are regularly active, so one of us would be the best choice for this in the future.
 
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Welcome back Doc! Good to see you back here at TDN and with Maraqua for the AC :D

 

Things are looking good for Maraqua so far :D